Jack Wealthy
Master Don Juan
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I'll actually edit this one day.
In order of importance I was honestly not even going to mention reputation, but so many people ***** and moan about "ruining good rep
" so I decided to address the issue. It happens on its own. One day your rep sucks, a month or six later you are cool. day by day it creeps by until you are where you want to be, all along that path you have breakthroughs and set-backs but eventually, you end up popular. It just happens. Everyone makes mistakes, the key to having a good reputation is making sure your mistakes are sincere from the core of your being, not what some key-board jockey tells you you should do. Most of those arses are just out to not get rejected, aim to succeed not just not lose.
Popularity happens when you relax; accept you are just average and start giving out positivity.
…
Sincerity.
Sincerity is congruence to your own inner values and beliefs. If you believe fat chicks are hot, yet only go for skinny chicks, it will show up in your mannerisms. If you lie, if will show up in your mannerisms. This is an instant turn-off for girls because it hits dangerous signals in her mind that say you are willing to do anything for sex and not worth having sex with because of it.
Responsibility for yourself is a huge component of sincerity. You have to stand by your actions and words as well as your beliefs. That doesn't mean not admitting your wrong, it means not making excuses for it. If you get a question wrong at school, don't say it is because someone else told you the wrong answer, just admit you're wrong.
This is how you will pass all ****-tests. By being non-reactive and sincere to the inner essence of fun and masculinity within you.
Sincerity is what means you will make actual friends, as opposed to friends you have to put effort in to be around. You will never again have to remember what opener you used, what things you like around these friends or try to connect with someone. It will all come organically. With everyone. You will stop knowing what you do around girls, your friends will say things like "How did you come up with that line?!" When it just flowed through you because it was sincere.
Sincerity is the biggest turn-on out there. Even more so than confidence. They're linked though, to be sincere you have to be confident and to have true confidence you need to be sincere.
Fair warning: You will lose some girls by being sincere. But those are the girls who you aren't right for and who aren't right for you. You have to lose girls to gain girls. Those ones you gain are matches.
Besides, perfect is boring.
FUN111!!
Fun is the difference between your intent being creepy and/or needy and it being sexy. Proof: Go watch Russell Brand's Got Issues. If that guy wasn't funny as fcuk they'd call that sexual assault. It is no coincedence he got laid like a full-time job, he was obvious with what he wanted and pursued it in a self-entertaining way. Most guys think: What can I do to make her think I am funny? What you want to do is entertain yourself. Constantly ask yourself: "How can I make this fun?"
The result is you amuse yourself. Your entertainment is entirely your responsibility, same as your sex life. No part of it falls to your friends, parents or anyone else but you. In your life, you are the only constant. Fun should become another constant. But you control it entirely, you can amuse yourself and be content or be constantly depressed. It is your choice. You are entirely your own responsibility.
Intent.
When I see a girl I think "HO DAMN!" then "What do I say..."
The secret of intent is... Ignore that second part. Walk up to her blank-minded with Ho Dem as the only thing in your consciousness. You will probably say hi, introduce yourself and shake her hand. You will probably want her a lot. This means you won't have to mess around with attract routines to make her show her interest, she will realise she does't have to show signs to get with you. If she doesn't want you she will make that clear through some form of rejection, if she is in a bad mood/your and her personality clash badly/she is a *****/you are a douche then you may get a blow-out. I have had two I can remember and honestly I saw the (blaring) signs a mile off and pursued anyways.
Approach with your intent fresh on your mind and it comes fresh in your actions, rejection will multiply hugely and success will multiply by the same.
INTENT: PHASE due.
Walking up to her with intent isn't enough on its own. That just makes you a horny bastard, you want to be a sexual man in your own right and subsequently in her eyes.
You do this through:
Maintaining your want to sex her. If you lose this because she turns you off then say so- gently. "Nice meeting you, have a great day hey."
Building tension of the sexual variety via: Maintained eye contact (>3 seconds is the ONLY ioi I use with great success), casual conversation, slower speaking, deeper voice, occasional silence, invasion of personal space and purposeful touching.
Realising your emotional states are tied to others and you and a girls want for sex will eventually meet, whether it be at a level involving sex or rejection.
INTENT:Warnings.
Intent isn't the only thing out there.
Stating your intent will get it rejected unless the girl is really on because otherwise she may feel slatty.
Your bad reactions will instantly be raised as people feel less inclined to be polite with you, however people who ARE nice to you are now nice to the real you and thus a friend.
To start with your rejection rate will rise faster then your close rate. It evens out with time. ~~2 months.
INTENT: Key Points.
Approach.
Use the binary scale of women: 0-No deal 1-Doable 2-That chick is so hot my system malfunctioned.
Approach some more.
Say what you really feel.
Relax and let silence exist.
To start with state your intent. It will numb you after a few approaches.
"What do I want?" Not "What should I say?"
Lower your threshold of acceptable topics to talk about.
Maintain eye contact with strangers for at least two seconds.
Take up space, preferably hers.
Stop watching porn and masturbating.
Workout.
Bringing it together:
Sincerity is the over-arching important concept here.
Essentially, just be a man (you) women want. Women love sex even more then guys do so don’t be ashamed to want sex with them. You’re doing them a favour. Think about it: If you want sex as strongly as you do and get as nervous as you do, how nervous would they get if this was reversed?
Nervousness is exaggerated by the way. The biggest way to sell pick-up products is to drill into you that you don’t know what to say! Or You get too nervous when you have to talk to a beautiful girl! You really don’t. I know it is a real feeling but compared to actual fear the feeling you’re getting is just anticipation, barely worth registering. It isn’t even that detectable by girls, it is that outlandish.
One last thing: Find something to be passionate about if you haven’t already. Find something you can move your life towards, something you really feel for.
In order of importance I was honestly not even going to mention reputation, but so many people ***** and moan about "ruining good rep
" so I decided to address the issue. It happens on its own. One day your rep sucks, a month or six later you are cool. day by day it creeps by until you are where you want to be, all along that path you have breakthroughs and set-backs but eventually, you end up popular. It just happens. Everyone makes mistakes, the key to having a good reputation is making sure your mistakes are sincere from the core of your being, not what some key-board jockey tells you you should do. Most of those arses are just out to not get rejected, aim to succeed not just not lose.Popularity happens when you relax; accept you are just average and start giving out positivity.
…
Sincerity.
Sincerity is congruence to your own inner values and beliefs. If you believe fat chicks are hot, yet only go for skinny chicks, it will show up in your mannerisms. If you lie, if will show up in your mannerisms. This is an instant turn-off for girls because it hits dangerous signals in her mind that say you are willing to do anything for sex and not worth having sex with because of it.
Responsibility for yourself is a huge component of sincerity. You have to stand by your actions and words as well as your beliefs. That doesn't mean not admitting your wrong, it means not making excuses for it. If you get a question wrong at school, don't say it is because someone else told you the wrong answer, just admit you're wrong.
This is how you will pass all ****-tests. By being non-reactive and sincere to the inner essence of fun and masculinity within you.
Sincerity is what means you will make actual friends, as opposed to friends you have to put effort in to be around. You will never again have to remember what opener you used, what things you like around these friends or try to connect with someone. It will all come organically. With everyone. You will stop knowing what you do around girls, your friends will say things like "How did you come up with that line?!" When it just flowed through you because it was sincere.
Sincerity is the biggest turn-on out there. Even more so than confidence. They're linked though, to be sincere you have to be confident and to have true confidence you need to be sincere.
Fair warning: You will lose some girls by being sincere. But those are the girls who you aren't right for and who aren't right for you. You have to lose girls to gain girls. Those ones you gain are matches.
Besides, perfect is boring.
FUN111!!
Fun is the difference between your intent being creepy and/or needy and it being sexy. Proof: Go watch Russell Brand's Got Issues. If that guy wasn't funny as fcuk they'd call that sexual assault. It is no coincedence he got laid like a full-time job, he was obvious with what he wanted and pursued it in a self-entertaining way. Most guys think: What can I do to make her think I am funny? What you want to do is entertain yourself. Constantly ask yourself: "How can I make this fun?"
The result is you amuse yourself. Your entertainment is entirely your responsibility, same as your sex life. No part of it falls to your friends, parents or anyone else but you. In your life, you are the only constant. Fun should become another constant. But you control it entirely, you can amuse yourself and be content or be constantly depressed. It is your choice. You are entirely your own responsibility.
Intent.
When I see a girl I think "HO DAMN!" then "What do I say..."
The secret of intent is... Ignore that second part. Walk up to her blank-minded with Ho Dem as the only thing in your consciousness. You will probably say hi, introduce yourself and shake her hand. You will probably want her a lot. This means you won't have to mess around with attract routines to make her show her interest, she will realise she does't have to show signs to get with you. If she doesn't want you she will make that clear through some form of rejection, if she is in a bad mood/your and her personality clash badly/she is a *****/you are a douche then you may get a blow-out. I have had two I can remember and honestly I saw the (blaring) signs a mile off and pursued anyways.
Approach with your intent fresh on your mind and it comes fresh in your actions, rejection will multiply hugely and success will multiply by the same.
INTENT: PHASE due.
Walking up to her with intent isn't enough on its own. That just makes you a horny bastard, you want to be a sexual man in your own right and subsequently in her eyes.
You do this through:
Maintaining your want to sex her. If you lose this because she turns you off then say so- gently. "Nice meeting you, have a great day hey."
Building tension of the sexual variety via: Maintained eye contact (>3 seconds is the ONLY ioi I use with great success), casual conversation, slower speaking, deeper voice, occasional silence, invasion of personal space and purposeful touching.
Realising your emotional states are tied to others and you and a girls want for sex will eventually meet, whether it be at a level involving sex or rejection.
INTENT:Warnings.
Intent isn't the only thing out there.
Stating your intent will get it rejected unless the girl is really on because otherwise she may feel slatty.
Your bad reactions will instantly be raised as people feel less inclined to be polite with you, however people who ARE nice to you are now nice to the real you and thus a friend.
To start with your rejection rate will rise faster then your close rate. It evens out with time. ~~2 months.
INTENT: Key Points.
Approach.
Use the binary scale of women: 0-No deal 1-Doable 2-That chick is so hot my system malfunctioned.
Approach some more.
Say what you really feel.
Relax and let silence exist.
To start with state your intent. It will numb you after a few approaches.
"What do I want?" Not "What should I say?"
Lower your threshold of acceptable topics to talk about.
Maintain eye contact with strangers for at least two seconds.
Take up space, preferably hers.
Stop watching porn and masturbating.
Workout.
Bringing it together:
Sincerity is the over-arching important concept here.
Essentially, just be a man (you) women want. Women love sex even more then guys do so don’t be ashamed to want sex with them. You’re doing them a favour. Think about it: If you want sex as strongly as you do and get as nervous as you do, how nervous would they get if this was reversed?
Nervousness is exaggerated by the way. The biggest way to sell pick-up products is to drill into you that you don’t know what to say! Or You get too nervous when you have to talk to a beautiful girl! You really don’t. I know it is a real feeling but compared to actual fear the feeling you’re getting is just anticipation, barely worth registering. It isn’t even that detectable by girls, it is that outlandish.
One last thing: Find something to be passionate about if you haven’t already. Find something you can move your life towards, something you really feel for.