"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to go about this?

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So far, I think it's going well, there haven't been any issues...but anything that diverts from what I think (in my mind) is fine, and I feel sh!t has hit the fan.

Basically, I hate not knowing whether she is into me...

So I met a girl at a party. It turned out we had class for the entire semester, but never talked. Got her number, we got together last week, right before break started and we left campus. We had a really good time, I dig her a lot. I told her to keep in touch over break and that I'd see her after we're all back in the new year.

Now, I wasn't going to talk to her in any way, be it text/call/whatever, but she texted me the next day asking me how my exam was. I've been keeping a 1:1 contact ratio with her.
She texts one day, I text the other, or whatever.

Last night I asked her if she had AIM, thinking we could chat more, she said she did but hasn't used it in a while, then told me she'd give it a go since it'd be easier than texting. She gave me her SN but I gave her mine first, and figured she would contact me.

I've seen her online a few times today, I figured it was to IM me, but she hasn't.



ANyways, probably most of what I've wrote is just me ranting, I don't plan on getting in touch with her until xmas morning, wishing her a merry Christmas, unless she gets in touch with me.

Sound all right? I very much dislike being bored (as I am now) and thinking about women. I have another girl I can go see, but she really does not do it for me anymore...it could be a nice way to get my mind off this new girl, though.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Following_of_Me

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Sounds like things are going just fine with the new girl. For texting, as my general rule of thumb, I don't rush to answer them. If I'm busy, I'll get around to them whenever I can, and if I'm not particularly busy, I'll usually wait about the amount of time it took her to respond to my last message, plus one minute, before responding. And no sense ever sending the first text or IM, unless it's important. In most cases, they will take the initiative there, as long as you take it when it counts.

Next time you have plans, which should be soon cause we all want to be busy, give her a call and see if she wants to join you.
 

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Yeah, I've followed that whole don't answer right away as far as texts go, etc.

There is no point of me calling her for plans right now, it's a really sh1tty time as she is 2hrs away, weather isn't nice (we're in Michigan), neither one is going to drive to each other with the holidays and all.

This wouldn't be an issue if we were on campus, of course.

As far as AIM goes, I've heard both points of view:
1)wait for her to contact you
2)she was waiting for you

I don't know, I guess I'll still stick to waiting until xmas for future contact.
 
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