"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to get the engagement ring back?

sazc

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She is putting a lot fo energy into reminding you of how poorly the relationship/end of the relationship went.
So we now know that she is still hurting because of it and, yes, she is trying to justify keeping it by convincing you that you were such an ass she deserves it.
You are doing the right thing by not engaging her. She will run out of steam eventually.
You can attempt to diffuse her/the situation by replying something like "I'm sad to see that you are still in pain from the ending of our relationship"
(because that IS what is going on)
And then further say something to the effect of " it wasnt easy on me either. I understand that you would prefer to keep the ring but I do own it, and I would like it back"

You do not, and should not, give her any reasons as to 'why'. why you want it back doesnt matter because there is no need to justify it, and there is no reason that will make her say "okay! Here you go!"

Just keep reiterating that it is your property and would like it back. give her a deadline and do this all in writing (email/text) Do NOT entertain any of her off topics writings. Just stick to the fact that it is your rung, you are sad she is still hurt, and you would like the ring back
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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AlphaNate

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I've decided to drop this. I'd like to just forget about it and re-block her.

Since this was a very expensive lesson, it's one I'll never forget. Thanks for the advice, boys and girls.
 
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