How to deal with girls that are ACTUALLY just friends.

[narcissist]

Okay. Now that I have begun to increase my social circle vastly, from when I first came here - Going from probably 10 friends to well over 100, and over 500 acquaintances - I have noticed that I have developed friendships with girls who I am literally just keeping as friends and nothing else. But I am literally lost with how the friendship dynamic works between a male and a female.

They still act as a needy girlfriend, and constantly text me and call me, which a lot of the time I am too busy to respond or w/e. Then when I see them in person they always go on about how sh*tty of a texter I am and that im not a good friend. lol. They say it in a joking way but can tell that they are a little serious as well.

For those who actually have girls as friends teach me the ways. I am f*cking lost. Some one break it down for me.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Treat them the same as your bros. Guys don't go texting each other 24/7 so they don't need to do that either. And if you are busy tell them that you are busy. If they ask, either tell them or say its none of their business. No big deal.

Regardless of all, if you don't start feeling attracted to them, then they will towards you. Drama and bullish!t can occur so just a heads up for ya.

 

[G_Govan]

For those who actually have girls as friends teach me the ways.

No such thing.

The fact that you have to ask is proof.

They can certainly be acquaintances or potential sex partners, but rarely ever genuine friends. You don't have to be concerned about sexual tension with male friends, you simply just get along.

You can certainly have females in your family that you can consider friends, but even then they tend to be more annoying than anything else (I do realize there are exceptions, some have very functional families).

 

[Zarky]

They still act as a needy girlfriend

Hell, women act this way to their female friends

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Try reframing the question. Do away with your original question and ask yourself "what do I want to get of out my relationship(s) with these girls who are actually just friends?" Girls love to wing with guys, girls love to hook up guys with other girls - there's that. And they can be an absolute goldmine as far as your red pill knowledge goes when they let their guard down and show you their phones, or tell you all about that "nice guy" who takes them out to expensive dinners at least once a week, but they're still "not sure about him" (although this 'uncertainty' has now reached close to a year). It's an incredibly effective way to learn w0manese and many of their countless hamsterizations sans blue balls.

Don't overthink this. Try to keep your interactions with them channeling in either one of those two directions and you'll be fine.

 

[om1xr]

it goes like this:

Women can't be friends with men and with women as well. because women don't give two fvcks about you. the only reason they are acting as a friend of yours is because you are like a spare tire that is reserved if they ever need you.

To get my point just see how a woman "friend" act when she knows that you are pursuing a hot girl. She will try to make you fail and she will be mad and she will no longer be your friend.

 

[saberu]

it goes like this:
Women can't be friends with men and with women as well. because women don't give two fvcks about you. the only reason they are acting as a friend of yours is because you are like a spare tire that is reserved if they ever need you.

I can't emphasize enough how true this is. Unless a woman is bisexual or lesbian then she won't be attracted to other women so attraction and the emotions that come with it and valuing women by attraction doesn't come into it.

The main difference between men and women is that most men can think much more objectively than women with some statistically insignificant exceptions. Whereas women can NOT think without bringing their emotions into it so with almost all women they can't relate to a man without bringing attraction into it.

I believe with absolute certainty that for women respect and attraction go hand in hand when dealing with men. This means for most women they will not want to be 'friends' with a guy they don't find attractive regardless of his other qualities. Due to social constructs of how to behave they will treat such people with great politeness in social settings e.g. with groups of friends but deep down they are hiding their real disrespectful nature.

In the same theme if a woman wants to be friends with a man it's simply because he wants his d!ck, wants a spare d!ck or wants the mans affection. In other cases a woman will appear to be friends with you but just be using you as an emotional tampon, these women have absolutely no respect for you and believe that as you are willing to listen to their bull**** then you are not a real man and just an object to be used hence the popular tampon metaphor we all know.

Because women always activate the emotional center of their brain when they think which is a scientifically tested phenomenon. Then I believe they are not capable of being genuine friends with each other and absolutely not with men. Women friendships are just emotional interdependency and hanging out to talk about bull****, not really deep friendships. Even a lot of men are not capable of having genuine friends, you have to be a very socially secure alpha male to have genuine friends, but then your friend needs to be too or it's a one sided friendship.

Even if a woman marries you her most basic primal instincts are still basing your whole relationship on her level of attraction for you. There's no such thing as a deep loving relationship there are just guys with either enough value or good enough game to make the girl like him enough to treat him well. Whereas with most guys unless they are a punk they will treat their girlfriend well.

Basically at a primal level most women as people are psychotically vain. A mature guy with a lot of dating experience ends up placing a lot of value on a girl's personality. Women do NOT do this, that is to say they do it so much as to be of almost little importance maybe just 10-20% compared to their value on vainer aspects. There is also a lot of elitism from women dating men. Most guys like to **** around and most high value guys can **** around with HB7-10 and once women have been with these guys as long as they are alpha confident guys they now EXPECT to get a guy of this level. Dating HB's is like swatting flies if you have value and good game. But even with the best game it will feel like a lot of work to close on a HB when you have very little value. Any of those famous PUA's that aren't great looking always wear the sharpest clothes as obviously it looks attractive but the main reason is it makes them look successful. If they weren't doing great financially they certainly wouldn't admit it to any of their targets or admit doing any job that is less than decent. So the clothes help them pretend to be more successful than they are, it's just a mirage to hook the girls vanity buttons so the confidence and game worked on her make her feel like you must be this successful guy or you wouldn't be so suave, which is a nice cliche on this site's name.

Sorry about the long post. I'm pepped because I managed to bring a girl home to my apartment and **** her on a first date while my 'girlfriend' was still at my apartment. And she didn't even notice