"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Baibars

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Hey guys,

i'm on sosuave since january. I was at a miserable state when i joined here but since then i started getting better in every aspects. The never ending process of self improvement started for me. I got a gym membership, had some job interviews and an appointment for a trial day in a really nice IT company where my chances being hired were good.
I was full of beans. But just now all my options ran out.

All gyms in my area are closed, the one company i had a trial day called me today and cancelled for the time being and so on.

The bad job im stucked in lets me work from home. ( which is ok for now )
The only things left im allowed to do are things like running, reading and doing body weight excercises.

I was so euphoric because things started to go in the right direction ( which never happened before because of my loser/beta mindset ). How should i deal with tis now? Thats really fvcked up.
The restrictions are for an indefinite period of time for now.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Keep the winning mindset during difficult times like we have now. Life is full of setbacks, but your focus and perspective is what gets you through it. Invent new and alternative ways to get what you want done. Sometimes it might feel like the ship is sinking, but if you look long enough for it, there’s always a lifeboat …
 

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Progress NEVER continues indefinitely and uninterrupted. There will always be times of adversity and so on.

Just remember that your growth does not come from benchmarks like a job or a gym membership. It comes from your strength to keep going.

That’s what fuels all of it.

Like it was said before me, keep at it and you’ll be fine.
I agree and i know what you mean. But what makes me upset/sad is that i spent the first half of my 20s with chasing a girl and being dumb.
I litterally insisted to NOT grow. Just now when i decided to grow, life says : Its time for adversity!
 

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Progress NEVER continues indefinitely and uninterrupted. There will always be times of adversity and so on.

Just remember that your growth does not come from benchmarks like a job or a gym membership. It comes from your strength to keep going.

That’s what fuels all of it.

Like it was said before me, keep at it and you’ll be fine.
ah that is what I disagree, you can always make progress, if you can't in some areas you can in anothers, but progress will happen, since where you life things closed down, take this time to rest your body, and read a lot, its time like this you should pick up any reading you are lacking and use the extra time

I agree and i know what you mean. But what makes me upset/sad is that i spent the first half of my 20s with chasing a girl and being dumb.
I litterally insisted to NOT grow. Just now when i decided to grow, life says : Its time for adversity!
you shouldn't be upset, you spend your younger years in a fools errant? good, now you understand what you did wrong and is learning, you already even know what you shouldn't be doing, if the problem is just body exercise you can do the basic exercise you can do push ups, sit ups, abs, and so on
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Work on your online game. Tinder, fb, etc., just don't get hooked and get attached to anybody. Create a group of online female orbiters.

Instead of consuming content, consider creating some. Something to channel your creative juices, blog, vlog, etc.

Evolutionary bottlenecks separate the men from the boys. Fight your way through.

 

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Sometimes it might feel like the ship is sinking, but if you look long enough for it, there’s always a lifeboat …
Until there isn't. We're all only here temporarily, after all.
 
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