How to deal with competition

[hondo928]

How do you deal with competition. I was watching RSD flawless Natural and Tim said calling the guy a creep can do that, but the situation I was in today didn't really allow for that. I started talking to my ex again and the first two times we hung out things were amazing, I had two AFC trying to get with her the first night, and it wasn't an issue, but then today we were hanging out and she brings one of those AFC along. I mean I'm way better looking (I'm like an 8 and he's max a 4), and smarter, but I turned into the AFC, it wasn't till after he left things started clicking a little better. :box:

I don't like the kid at all anyway, but I would like to improve things with the ex and keep it as a possibility, she's very insecure, so I think she's just using him for attention or to make me jealous but it is possible that she's interested. Although I know she was interested in me up till today. I was going to let things cool off a little, before I talk to her again, but I just want to make sure I'm not the AFC, if this were to occur again. Also is fighting ever acceptable? Not to be a pr*** but she said she thinks its sexy, and I could easily beat this kids a**

 

[theunflushables]

Why are you wasting time on an ex? An ex is an ex for a reason. Fighting over a chick is never acceptable especially when its something she is subconciously persuading you to do. You're becoming her dancing monkey.

 

[everywomanshero]

Here's what I think:

1) Everyone at RSD is a mad jacker, addicted to porn, and give workshops to get money for porn & hookers so they can feel better about themselves. An old buddy took one of their workshops and he said they were terrible in-field. One of them he said was practically a midget, some lil skater kid and all the girls laughed at him or ignored him. Another guy just drank the whole time, and another guy who seemed like he had potentiol... when the students forced him to approach (they had to corner and pester him to do so), he got blown out a few times and then wouldn't approach anymore.

2) No, I don't think I'd ever want to fight over a chick (ha). However, if some dude was annoying me I'd start making him really uncomfortable--touching her, making out with her, etc. If you just totally cut him out of the picture like this, he will probably leave on his own accord with his tail between his legs. IOWs, stop ***** footing around and either **** her or get rid of her for good. You can't even use her to get other girls if you're going to be spending all your time worrying about if she's hooking up with a 4 or not.

One other thing, never assume who women will or won't hookup with. I've seen way too many cases where a guy who is fat, married, short, ugly, way too young or old, etc. are secretly hooking up with chicks. This is a double edge sword, because while it means there is no type of girl any guy can't get, there is also no such thing as "knowing for sure she'd never hookup with X guy" either. Best wishes!

3) Women you feel the need to fight over are probably not women you want to be concentrating on. THose are FBs, someone to have fun with when mutually available and then never think twice about otherwise. Concentrate on the women you might actually enjoy spending time with.

 

[hondo928]

I think it was a little misunderstood that I want to fight over her, I more or less just wanted to punch the kid in the face lol. The first time he was there I did exactly that make him feel uncomfortable, apparently he dumped his gf for my ex and has been trying to hook up with her for 3 weeks now and hasn't. I think she may be tryingng to talk to both of us which is fine since she's not the only one I;m talking to, but this situation comes up at parties a lot where multiple guys try to game on the same girl. Anything else other than making the other guy feel uncomftorable