"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to break up

sirkjd

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Been dating girl HB5ish/10 for 3 months. seeing her once to twice a week.

Just made the decision to break it off. I am just not that into her.

She is a good chick and I sorta believe she is a fair bit emotionally invested although we have never spoken about our status as a relationship.

What is a good way to break it off?

1. via text - no awkwardness, but I think I would feel like a douche

2. via phone - kinda awkward phone convo, don't really know what to say... but would prob be seen as more "honorable".

I can't do it in person because she lives 30min away.

What are your opinions?

Thanks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Desdinova

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In my experience, it doesn't matter how you do it. It won't affect her overall opinion of you. What DOES affect her opinion of you is how you treated her during the relationship, and how you deal with her after the relationship.

I did it in person with the last girl. I did it at my house. She made a mess of the place before she left.

I did it via text and fb with the two women before.

All three of them would jump at the opportunity to get back with me given the chance, although I'd probably get the most resistance with the one I broke up with in person.
 

sirkjd

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thanks. I am leaning towards breaking off by text.

Any thought on that and what kinda message to send?
 

Desdinova

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Just be polite about it. Let her know that you enjoyed your time with her, but you feel that you're not quite right for each other.

No need to go into much detail. You've been with her for only three months.
 
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