how to be tactful

[Zerotwoonenine]

guys i really need help on this one, i have no idea about how to being tactful.
normally i can do all the dj stuff, but often i screw it up by asking offending questions, and its not just with girls, i offend my friends often as well, for example, the other day i got kicked because i said a guy friend of mine has got big tits.
Please tell me what questions and topics should i avoid, not just with girls, but with friends as well, thanks alot.

 

[The Truth]

Before you speak, just think "would I be offended if someone said that to me?"

I know a lot of people who just speak their mind not knowing its quite hurtful sometimes. In these cases, they're best not saying anything.

Basically avoid saying anything that could be taken as critical and personal. Anything flaw that singles a person out is off limits. If your friend is fat, never make jokes about his weight! If a girl has no boobs, never call her flatchested. Make fun of things that aren't an issue or aren't something they feel insecure about.

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

thanks man, but sometimes when there is a silence and i want to make a joke, my mind doesnt act logically and ask "would i offend some one", but hopefully i get better.