How to avoid an argument?

[phil2015]

Hi guys,

Just a quick question, I have been wondering about;
I recently read Corey Wayne’s book on dating, and it has taught me much. Whilst
It is very good, there is one part I cannot seem to understand at the moment. This is
Where he says;

“Men who understand women, do not argue with them”

Whilst I agree it is good not to argue, I am wondering how exactly to implement this
is practicality. I mean, if my GF gets angry do I…..

- Sit there and ignore
- Walk out of the room
- Warn her to speak to me respectfully
- Pretend not to listen
- None of the above

I am wondering if anyone can elaborate exactly how to apply this principle?
Regards

P

 

[wifehunter]

Let her cool off. Then discuss in an adult manner.

 

[dude99]

Hi guys,

Just a quick question, I have been wondering about;
I recently read Corey Wayne’s book on dating, and it has taught me much. Whilst
It is very good, there is one part I cannot seem to understand at the moment. This is
Where he says;

“Men who understand women, do not argue with them”

Whilst I agree it is good not to argue, I am wondering how exactly to implement this
is practicality. I mean, if my GF gets angry do I…..

- Sit there and ignore
- Walk out of the room
- Warn her to speak to me respectfully
- Pretend not to listen
- None of the above

I am wondering if anyone can elaborate exactly how to apply this principle?
Regards

P

You do all the above then soft next her for 3 or 4 days. She will learn that you are not playing games. If she continues to try to argue with you then you dump and go 100% no contact. No sense in dating a woman who is inflexable.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

1) Don't even engage in an argument.

2) If she insists, you tell her once that if she can't converse respectfully with you like an adult, she can/you will leave.

3) If she continues, you follow through on number two.

Arguments are for stroppy teenagers and the emotionally unstable; not fully grown, sane adults who apparently are engaged in romantic/sexual relations..

 

[narcissist]

Take this as a rule of thumb: do not be with a girl exclusively if there is on average 3 or more arguments a month.

Otherwise you are just wasting your time.

 

[narcissist]

Find a girl that you never argue with. Trust me, there are plenty out there. I think I have had 3 arguments with my girlfriend in total over 9 months. It's pretty fantastic. And only 1 was serious.


I guarantee I would have broke up with her already if there were three arguments a month. Think about that. Hypothetically, that would be 27 arguments. Being in a relationship is supposed to be fun and beneficial. If it isn't why the hell would you remain in it? Don't forget. You have an obligation to yourself to make your life the best it can be. If you remain in a sh1t relationship that is simply an act of self-disrespect.

 

[SgtSplacker]

What I do is just discuss the general attitude, not the issue she's crying about. Women argue about emotion. She's basically mad about how you made her feel, not so much what you did for the most part. There's no winning that, solving the problem does not address how she feels about it.

I'll address how I made her feel, then I'll start talking about her attitude and how I really don't tolerate drama. I'll tell her that we can discuss feelings differently, it doesn't have to be an argument. I'll discuss attitude and that happiness comes from inside. Etc etc

 

[Poon King]

“Men who understand women, do not argue with them”

This is true, but I don't think most men understand why its true. It goes back to being the "alpha male" or the powerful one. Imagine a king arguing with one of his many wives. Hard to picture right? That's because there is no argument. You either do what the king wants or you deal with the consequences. Nothing to argue about.

When a man argues with a woman he usually has at least one of two goals. He is either seeking approval or permission from that woman and defending/explaining his actions OR he is trying to get her to do something she doesn't want to do. Either way, he wants the woman to agree with him and see things his way. This is retarded because women don't argue to solve problems or see the other viewpoint.. they argue to get their way. This is where "understanding them" comes in.

I've definitely had heated moments with plates when they try to start drama. But I don't engage in any kind of long back and forth argument with them. I just tell them where I stand on the issue and whatever they decide to do about it is up to them.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Here's a little trick: do not invalidate emotions.

Invalidate means to argue to her that she should not be having those emotions, because they are illogical. Of course they are, they're a woman's emotions. You're never going to beat that sh!t. It's like force in martial arts, don't oppose it. If she says she is upset, then I just tell her 'sorry you're upset.' (sorry you're being stupid) And then go on without getting mad. I would never try to tell a girl that she should not have illogical emotions; that's just part of being a girl. Being a man means not letting it bother you.

 

[bigneil]

Argument is the opposite of seduction. It is the most anti-seductive behavior. It does not coexist with attraction. If they feel attraction they gloss over anything they might have argued about. Argument implies a lack of attraction.

I've never had an argument with my current girl. Looking back, with most girls I date lately we agreed on every meal, dish, drink, hotel, date, kiss and text. It isn't something we have to plan as much as a byproduct of finding the right match.

If an argument does start, you simply walk away and don't text her until she comes to you.

I dated one girl for 18 months and we broke up once she started arguing over things like whether she should bring pizza into the bathroom. Once you find them getting annoyed with you, it's usually over.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Find a girl that you never argue with. Trust me, there are plenty out there. I think I have had 3 arguments with my girlfriend in total over 9 months. It's pretty fantastic. And only 1 was serious.


I guarantee I would have broke up with her already if there were three arguments a month. Think about that. Hypothetically, that would be 27 arguments. Being in a relationship is supposed to be fun and beneficial. If it isn't why the hell would you remain in it? Don't forget. You have an obligation to yourself to make your life the best it can be. If you remain in a sh1t relationship that is simply an act of self-disrespect.

Shoot, some folks have 27 arguments in a day or definitely in a week.

 

[bigneil]

I've found that all women are argumentive and have BPD when they have no attraction. Meanwhile, all of them are angels when they are sufficiently attracted.

I'd much rather be with a bad girl who was attracted than a good girl who wasn't attracted. You can never trust a woman until you've made her come. Why? Because someone else could get the upper hand if they do. I read that for women, an orgasm is the opposite of (anxiety + emotion). Interesting that those two were grouped. I assume they should be emotional before sex but the sex act reduces them to emotionless animal instinct. Women get emotional after an orgasm. It's like tilting a (square) fish tank until the bottom corner is dry. Then a tidal wave comes back when you return it to normal.