How to ask for a number?

[claphamski]

Ok this may seem like a stupid question, but once conversation has been initiated and all's going good, I can never seem to find the right word's to get a number without completely looking obvious in my intentions. I was talking to a girl on the bus the other day, we got off (the bus), walked for a bit until we had to go our separate ways. I new what I wanted (i.e. her number), but what's the DJ way of getting it or at least asking (or whatever other verb you'd use) ?

 

[PDubb75]

I just make some comment that fits into the convo, and almost in the same breathe just add "... let me get your number" as I reach into my pocket for my phone.

 

[Boilermaker]

"Hey look, I've gotta get going. Very nice talking to you. We should do this again. How can I get back in touch with you?"
^

This is very smart and it will probably work in a plethora of cases you'll run into. Just memorize it and you have one solid tool to get their number or email, or whatever.

Because people are naive and they will genuinely think you are wondering how to get back in touch with them.

Great contribution, Espi.

 

[Nutz]

Ok this may seem like a stupid question, but once conversation has been initiated and all's going good, I can never seem to find the right word's to get a number without completely looking obvious in my intentions. I was talking to a girl on the bus the other day, we got off (the bus), walked for a bit until we had to go our separate ways. I new what I wanted (i.e. her number), but what's the DJ way of getting it or at least asking (or whatever other verb you'd use) ?

Step 1: Open
Step 2: Build comfort
Step 3: Break rapport (aka flirting)
Step 4: Build commonalities
Step 5: Seed reasons to meet up later
Step 6: Ask for a good way to keep in touch (for the purpose of following up on the reasons stated in step 5).
Step 7: Continue talking for a 5 minutes or more so not to seem like a pickup attempt.

"Hey look, I've gotta get going. Very nice talking to you. We should do this again. How can I get back in touch with you?"
^

This is very smart and it will probably work in a plethora of cases you'll run into. Just memorize it and you have one solid tool to get their number or email, or whatever.

Because people are naive and they will genuinely think you are wondering how to get back in touch with them.

Great contribution, Espi.

Exactly, that's what I used, and for that reason. Big thanks to Adam Lyons for putting me onto that one.

 

[GaryUranga]

Man, it's ok to be "obvious" in your intentions.

Remember AFCs are the ones who get friended by trying to go under the radar. Alpha males state their interest up front while still not being outcome dependent.

 

[BillieAnn]

If you really want to touch it there is nothing wrong if you just ask for the number!
Have confidence!
Good luck!

 

[Stryker]

Man, it's ok to be "obvious" in your intentions.

Remember AFCs are the ones who get friended by trying to go under the radar. Alpha males state their interest up front while still not being outcome dependent.

This.
Once you get it into your head that it's OK to be obvious, getting a girl's number will suddenly become a much easier task. Most guys are too afraid of showing their intentions because they think it will offend or scare off the woman. Not true, women would much rather have a guy who knows what he wants and goes for it.

 

[Aaron B]

why wouldn't you want your intentions to be obvious?

i do paper and pen

i hand her the paper and the pen and say "here, write your number down"

if you want to hand her your phone and tell her to input her information, i'm sure that will work as well

 

[Mike32ct]

Any of the above will work. It isn't critical. Although I like espi's method best.

I use, "I'd like to give you a call sometime. What's your number?"

Don't worry about it being "obvious." She isn't stupid. She knows exactly why you want her number. It's ok. You won't be the first guy to ask for her number and probably not the last.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Are you really worried about being obvious? To tell you the truth, most attractive girls just assume the guys who are chatting her up are attracted to her. Especially the first time you meet. This is perhaps why women evaluate so quickly and form an impression of you.

By the way, girls seem to be perfectly fine giving out their numbers, so that is hardly even part of the game. Unless you're cold approaching strangers, that is.

Oh, and the pen and paper thing...that's one of David DeAngelo's techniques. In this technique, you're supposed to ask for an email. It differentiates you from all the guys who ask for phone numbers, and you can always get her number via email.

 

[iwanttofight]

that best way to get her number is have her give it to you!!!!! dont ask let her give it to you then you know this chick digs you.

 

[iwanttofight]

that best way to get her number is have her give it to you!!!!! dont ask let her give it to you then you know this chick digs you.

 

[shizz702]

You don't ask her, you TELL her to give it to you. Best way to avoid fakes is to have her give it to you, put it in your phone and tell her ok I'm gonna text you mine.

If she doesn't comply oh well move on. Don't waste time, get them digits and get on.

 

[ThisIsYourWakeUpCall]

I actually had an interesting number close this past weekend where I picked up a bottle hotstess at a nightclub by saying this "hey, I don't think this is gonna work out between me a you, but I think you should give me your number so we can write up the divorce papers and be civil about this" I then took me phone and assumed the close by putting my phone in her front of her she took it and put her number in LOL

 

[fibonacci]

Dang... i must have it backwards. I NEVER ask for their numbers. Even if they insist on giving it to me I'd always say my battery is dead or something similar.

"I'll give you mines, call me when your free"
-- -- , hit me up later or whenever.


Not having their number allows be to place the ball entirely in their court - besides, I have a life! . Saves me a shi*tload of time via the sorting out process.

 

[Marvin Gaye]

Congratulations: You get to be the 68th number in my phone!

 

[perseverance]

Ok this may seem like a stupid question, but once conversation has been initiated and all's going good, I can never seem to find the right word's to get a number without completely looking obvious in my intentions.

I'm the opposite, I always want to be obvious in my intentions. If I'm talking to a girl and I want to get to know her better, I get my phone out, hand it to her and ask her to punch her number in, depending on the level of interest from the said girl it usually is the simplest way for me to get the number close.

 

[perseverance]

Congratulations: You get to be the 68th number in my phone!

That's a fun way of going about it, it reminds of those irritating pops up you get on musical lyric websites. "Congratulations, you are our 999, 999th person to visit this website, you win an IPad2.

 

[loveshogun]

I can never seem to find the right word's to get a number without completely looking obvious in my intentions.

I must have missed the memo. Since when do real men speak in circles? Is there some Konami code we need to enter before we can talk to women now?

Here's how I, or any regular (and even irregular) human being would do it.
"Hey, I'd love to continue this another time. What's your number?"

You're over-thinking it, chief. Admit that you were too afraid to ask. It's alright - we can help with that. Don't complicate simple things.

 

[Aaron B]

If she doesn't comply oh well move on.

exactly. this is the proper frame to operate from

you only control that you request her information. how she reacts to your request is not something you control and not something you should feel invested in the outcome about ("you can't lose what you never had in the first place")

i'd much rather spend my time and effort starting a new interaction with a girl who may very well comply with what i want, instead of wasting my time and energy on a girl who has just demonstrated to me that she isn't going to comply