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How to act when girl shows low interest?

DJEzyE

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Hi guys

Does anyone know what is the best thing to do or say when the girl you approached showed little or no IOIs?

Like I have no problem approaching the girls that I want, except everynow and then when the one that I really want shows little or no interest, I just get stuck there. Standing there awkwardly and usually I'll come up with something stupid like "nice shoes"(ahhhh I'm a disgrace!) lol

So what do you guys do when the girl isn't interested? what's the best thing to say or do? I don't want to simply just walk away, at least get something out before I do.
 

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The Master Disaster

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A girl won't show interest unless you can successfully pull off an opener.

If she shows no interest after you attempt one, move on. It's too hard of a hill to climb at that point.
 

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DJEzyE said:
So what do you guys do when the girl isn't interested? what's the best thing to say or do? I don't want to simply just walk away, at least get something out before I do.
If a girl truly isn't interested, then she isn't interested. 99 times out of 100, that's when I give a bail-out line and move on with my day. But, I define "not interested" as seeing active signs of disinterest from a girl -- short/curt responses, lack of eye contact, texting/looking at her phone, etc. Those are definite bailouts for me.

You can't create interest unless she's willing to work with you a little bit -- and that means more than yes/no answers.

As far as conversation goes, there are tons of threads on that. If you want to keep one going, the best thing to do is get her talking about herself. Ask appropriate follow up questions to keep conversation moving. Usually I'll open with something a girl is doing -- like the other night I saw a girl typing at Starbucks on my way out. She was using a small computer, so as I was walking by I just made the observation / comment "Wow, that's a tiny computer." She made some comment about how she used it for work and it was easier to carry and work on the go -- which allowed me to segue directly into "What kind of work do you do?"

But again, if she ain't interested, she'll never let you get past the opener.
 

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You move on to a new girl. Honestly it's a waste of time to work for a girls interest, especially when in reality she is a dime a dozen. There are hotter girls, and cooler girls who will be more attracted to you.
 
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