"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to act if a girl promised to call me but didn't?

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I invited this girl over to my house and she said she would call me after her play, but she didn't, and today she told me she simply forgot. "It's not that I didn't want too, I just forgot. We were busy and then when we were done it was too late to call"... Something like that. How should I react about that?

So far all I did is brushed it off and acted like I didn't really care, and immediatly stopped talking to her after...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BannedGod said:
I invited this girl over to my house and she said she would call me after her play, but she didn't, and today she told me she simply forgot. "It's not that I didn't want too, I just forgot. We were busy and then when we were done it was too late to call"... Something like that. How should I react about that?

So far all I did is brushed it off and acted like I didn't really care, and immediatly stopped talking to her after...
This is girl speak for, "I found something that stimulated my brain to a higher degree as compared to you, but I feel sorry for you for neglecting you and I dont want to hurt your feelings, so I will just sugar-coat what I say. After I was done with the fun I forget all about you and fell asleep".

Just being brutally honest.

I think how you should react is to treat her exactley the same, say you'll call her and say exactley what she said to you. I think she will get the hint that she offended you.

Its good that you acted like you didn't care......but dont cut her off, keep talking to her but since she offended you just keep it mundane and generic like..."How was your day" type of talk....

Peace.
 

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michaelhctam said:
This is girl speak for, "I found something that stimulated my brain to a higher degree as compared to you, but I feel sorry for you for neglecting you and I dont want to hurt your feelings, so I will just sugar-coat what I say. After I was done with the fun I forget all about you and fell asleep".

Just being brutally honest.

I think how you should react is to treat her exactley the same, say you'll call her and say exactley what she said to you. I think she will get the hint that she offended you.

Its good that you acted like you didn't care......but dont cut her off, keep talking to her but since she offended you just keep it mundane and generic like..."How was your day" type of talk....

Peace.
This is where I have problems with these "tactics"... Until when should I act like that? (mundane and generic). Do I do it for a certain period of time, or until she realises that it offended me?
 

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BannedGod said:
I invited this girl over to my house and she said she would call me after her play, but she didn't, and today she told me she simply forgot. "It's not that I didn't want too, I just forgot. We were busy and then when we were done it was too late to call"... Something like that. How should I react about that?

So far all I did is brushed it off and acted like I didn't really care, and immediatly stopped talking to her after...

Act like nothing happened...because nothing did. Women get upset over not getting called. Not men.
 

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BannedGod said:
So far all I did is brushed it off and acted like I didn't really care, and immediatly stopped talking to her after...
Seems like you handled it already
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BannedGod said:
I invited this girl over to my house and she said she would call me after her play, but she didn't, and today she told me she simply forgot. "It's not that I didn't want too, I just forgot. We were busy and then when we were done it was too late to call"... Something like that. How should I react about that?

So far all I did is brushed it off and acted like I didn't really care, and immediatly stopped talking to her after...

Dude, that girl is feeding you BS. If she really cared about you she wouldn't have forgot. All the dudes telling you to keep talking to her are giving you AFC advice. Girls that care DO NOT BREAK DATES period.

She should be dead to you. If she calls, you should be too busy for her. Don't be rude or angry, just tell her you've got other things to do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-xp0LewhI8
 

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Pappadapolis said:
Dude, that girl is feeding you BS. If she really cared about you she wouldn't have forgot. All the dudes telling you to keep talking to her are giving you AFC advice. Girls that care DO NOT BREAK DATES period...
More specifically, if she was interested in getting together with him she would have told him what time she'd be at his house, period. This sitting around waiting for a phonecall at no known time is the sign of low interest level on her part and high AFC level on the guy's part. Stop wasting effort on how to recover from situations like this by not getting into them in the first place.
 

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BannedGod said:
This is where I have problems with these "tactics"... Until when should I act like that? (mundane and generic). Do I do it for a certain period of time, or until she realises that it offended me?
You answered your own question, do it for a period of time and then she will realise you offended her.

If the b!tch dosent get it, then ignore her 4EVA MUHAHA
 

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I'd just leave her alone until she tried to start something with me. If a girl is really interested in you, then she'll make up for it by asking you when are we gonna hang out? When are you gonna call me? etc.

Basically, if she's not interested, she's gonna do the least she possibly can, aka give you her phone number and make up excuse after excuse until you get the hint or lose interest. But if she really does care about you, then she'll prove it by being the one to set up a date or something, try to get with you you know?
 

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I'd just leave her alone until she tried to start something with me. If a girl is really interested in you, then she'll make up for it by asking you when are we gonna hang out? When are you gonna call me? etc.

Basically, if she's not interested, she's gonna do the least she possibly can, aka give you her phone number and make up excuse after excuse until you get the hint or lose interest. But if she really does care about you, then she'll prove it by being the one to set up a date or something, try to get with you you know?
Well she does a mix of both... Other then yesterday, she never made up an excuse or bailed out on me or anything...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Pappadapolis said:
Dude, that girl is feeding you BS. If she really cared about you she wouldn't have forgot. All the dudes telling you to keep talking to her are giving you AFC advice. Girls that care DO NOT BREAK DATES period.

She should be dead to you. If she calls, you should be too busy for her. Don't be rude or angry, just tell her you've got other things to do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-xp0LewhI8
Pappadapolis, Great link and good advice that sums it up.

She has a low interest level.
 

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Sit by your phone, eat a litre of ice cream, and cry
 

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Well she does a mix of both... Other then yesterday, she never made up an excuse or bailed out on me or anything...
Well make her follow through on it. Put the ball in her court. If she asks you if you want to hang out...tell her yes, but since she cancelled on you last time, that she has to make it up to you, she has to plan the date and she has to come pick you up. Check mate...this shows where her true intentions are, either she wants to go out with you or she doesn't. There's no way she can tip toe around that. While you're waiting for her to decide, you just keep it up with other chicks and keep them in reserve.
 

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If I made plans with a chick, first off.....I wouldn't make plans with a chick I just fvck.

Dates, romantic dinners, etc......are chicks that are in my "wifey" catergory, it's the chicks that truly care about me and not just fvck me.

Sounds like you just got a fvck partner, and guys make a huge mistake when they mistake a fvck partner as a "girlfriend."

Your girl-friend....is exactly that. She's your "girl" AND "friend."

Your "girl" is just a chick you fvck.
Your "girl-friend" is a chick that you fvck, but also cares deeply about you.

In a lifetime, 90% of the chicks you encounter WILL NOT be "girl-friends," but you'll notice that 90% of guys will treat them that way.

They will also expect her to PERFORM like a "girl-friend." And when she doesn't.....they are here with their feelings hurt.

I honestly think that's why this site is even here! Majority of guys take "fvck partners" and try to make them "girl-friends" JUST BECAUSE they are girls! I mean, just because I have a dyck doesn't mean I'm a man! Just Because she's a chick doesn't mean she's a good chick/wifey/girlfriend.

Your chick problems will be solved.....when you learn to differate a fvck partner and a wifey chick. No I'm not talking about getting married, I'm talking about surrounding yourself with chicks that care about you and fvck you.

One guy told me that John, "You can't define success for guys. Some want an LTR, some want a lot of pvssy."

Well, that's true, and both are great.

But for your "pvssy" chicks.....you need to UNDERSTAND SOMETHING.

1. Do NOT expect anything personal from her. You CANNOT relay on her.
2. SHE MIGHT NOT be in your life 2 days from now.
3. SHE MIGHT turn out to be your worst enemy.
4. DO NOT share with her your secrets.
5. DO NOT treat her as a friend, a soulmate, a NOTHING!
6. DO NOT take her on dates, DO NOT expect her to call or anything.

The ONLY THING YOU DO WITH HER......is fvck her. Fvck her brains out.....fvck her good.

Sounds strange? There's a reason for everything....and there's a reason why

1. Majority of women only fvck guys that don't care about them.
2. Majority of women dog guys that truly care about them.

While you might be thinking this is "twisted," in case you haven't learnt what's really going on TODAY in relationships.....I suggest you grab a beer, set aside 45 minutes.....and read this post:http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=50480

While you all hate PRL, and you can continue hating him, but this thread has nothing to do with PRL.....this thread or link I should say, has more to do with the current status of relationships. By knowing the "field" in America, not only will it help to protect your heart, but it'll also help to protect your time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
Act like nothing happened...because nothing did. Women get upset over not getting called. Not men.
Yepper.

Getting emotional over missing a fvckin' phone call from a woman is like masturbating with a cactus.
 

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THE_ADDMAN said:
Sit by your phone, eat a litre of ice cream, and cry
haha!
 
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