"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok I would appreciate advice from the Dj's who have some experience in the seduction field

I met this girl 3 weeks ago, flirted with her and took her number. I call her the next day and we talk some more. She tells me her last relationship was over a year ago and is not looking for one now. after that she tells me she wants to be just friends. I say I understand, and we could be friends (hoping this helps my rep with her when I could probably put her off by coming on stronger)

I had the strong sense that this girl really digged me though from the way we got on and so I wait 2 weeks and call her to ask her out.."just as friends"

She agrees and we talk some more. She suggests we see a movie and i get to pick the day. Now I know this 'friends' label is on us but that is just for now, hopefully. She seemed hesitant about dating so I think this comforts her and at the same time gives me the opportunity to help show her that what she really wants is to be with me.

Lol maybe I am reading into this too much But I want to know how you would suggest I play this. I want to get "physically intimate' with this girl badly (she has the most banging legs) so how much dates would this require? How would I break it to her than I want to be more than friends? or should I not bring this up?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Username666 said:
Ok I would appreciate advice from the Dj's who have some experience in the seduction field

I met this girl 3 weeks ago, flirted with her and took her number. I call her the next day and we talk some more. She tells me her last relationship was over a year ago and is not looking for one now. after that she tells me she wants to be just friends. I say I understand, and we could be friends (hoping this helps my rep with her when I could probably put her off by coming on stronger)
You shouldn't have agreed to being "friends" with her,or better yet,agree to being friends with her,but continue being flirty/romantic/sexual in BEHAVIOR towards her.


If she had pulled that friends line on me,I would have went like,"Oh,you want to be just friends? O...kay. So umm...does that mean I won't get to see you topless?".

Attraction is NOT choice. If you keep acting sexual and being sexual around her,she has NO CHOICE but to think of you sexually because that's all you keep giving out to her. Just the simple thought of YOU will bring sex to her mind.


You agreed to be friends with her,but if you let that agreement cause you to alter your behavior to where you no longer do or say anything sexual with her,you're friendzone bound.


Username666 said:
She agrees and we talk some more. She suggests we see a movie and i get to pick the day. Now I know this 'friends' label is on us but that is just for now, hopefully.
It's up to YOU whether or not the "friends" label remains. A "friendship" is a relationship as well,and like ALL relationship,it takes two WILLING people to maintain it. I don't care what she said,you two can't be friends unless YOU agree to it and give your consent as well.


Username666 said:
She seemed hesitant about dating so I think this comforts her and at the same time gives me the opportunity to help show her that what she really wants is to be with me.
You didn't comfort her,you deceived her. SHE SAID "friends",then you agreed to it. So how does that comfort her about dating you?

The "comfort" you sense from her is her thinking that you've giving up pursuing her as a sexual interest.


You deceived her. Don't deceive yourself as well.

username666 said:
Lol maybe I am reading into this too much But I want to know how you would suggest I play this.
I would suggest that in how you act and behave,be completely romantic and sexual with her. NOTHING vulgar or profane,just treat her as if the "friends" thing never even came up. If she brings up the "friends" thing again,be like,"Yeah,we're friends",then tell her you like that way she looks whatever she's wearing.

Just give lip service to anything she says concerning being "friends",but in your behavior,be sexual.



Username666 said:
How would I break it to her than I want to be more than friends? or should I not bring this up?
You shouldn't have to "break" it to her dude,it's not like it's some sort of bad news or something.


And as far as not bring it up,fine,don't bring it up...in your words. But as far as how you act with her,just act like a man who's attraction to a woman.
 
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