How should I handle this?

[Junkies19]

Hey guys,

Long time reader, first time poster.

On Saturday I'm going out with a girl that I have waited almost four years to ask out. I would always see her in the hallway and cafeteria, but could never really build up to say more than "hi" until about a month or so ago.

The thing is that I have an eye condition called nystagmus and growing up my eye docs always told me that I would have no chance to drive, but like a year ago my doctor said that he could write me a note and that would qualify me to drive. I managed to get my learners but I honestly feel like I would be more of a danger on the road and I'd rather not put other people in harms way and I'd rather not pursue the license. I guess it's not really attractive for a 27 year old not being able to drive

I guess my question is should I be upfront about this on our first "official" date or should I wait to bring this up?

Also I'm moving back to my parents house for a few months to save a few bucks and assist my mother who is not really in the best health right now. With me not driving I think this could be an issue because my parents live in a place that is not metro accessible so that could kill my chances of future dates and possibly getting intimate.

Thanks and I appreciate any feedback that you can give me.

 

[prairiedog24]

I'm hardly the expert around here... but in the end you're going to have to find a girl who doesn't mind taking the lead on certain matters (i.e., driving). I wouldn't tiptoe around it. A disability can be attractive if countered in other areas of your personality. I don't think there are too many women who wouldn't go for Al Picino in "scent of a woman." His blindness ADDED to his allure.

You're just going to have to compensate in other areas. And by "compensate", what I really mean is "kick ass."

I'd honestly be a lot more concerned about the "living with your parents" part than the driving/eyesight part.

 

[Junkies19]

I'm hardly the expert around here... but in the end you're going to have to find a girl who doesn't mind taking the lead on certain matters (i.e., driving). I wouldn't tiptoe around it. A disability can be attractive if countered in other areas of your personality. I don't think there are too many women who wouldn't go for Al Picino in "scent of a woman." His blindness ADDED to his allure.

You're just going to have to compensate in other areas. And by "compensate", what I really mean is "kick ass."

I'd honestly be a lot more concerned about the "living with your parents" part than the driving/eyesight part.

Thanks for the words man.

The living it home thing is REALLY throwing me off, but my mom is not doing well and I figure the least I can do is help her out a little until January. She put up with my annoying butt for 18 years

 

[prairiedog24]

Thanks for the words man.

The living it home thing is REALLY throwing me off, but my mom is not doing well and I figure the least I can do is help her out a little until January. She put up with my annoying butt for 18 years

Understand. Just take necessary precautions. Don't get lazy. Get out and have fun when you can. Work hard. Be a man even around your parents (respectful of course, but a man nonetheless), Etc.