"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How often do you see your GF?

The_Reaper

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On average? Every day? 2-3 times a week?

I heard David D saying to only see her twice a week, but I suppose he was referring to the attraction phase, not the relationship.

Does "the heart grow fonder" with absense? From my own experience, it does, but you have to strike a balance. Not too much absense. But definitely if you see someone every single day you inevitable begin to take the person for granted. Anyone agree?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WORKEROUTER

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Don't see her too often, REGARDLESS of how often you two have dated.

I figured this out by experience. When I end up seeing my gf too often (like every day), it gets repetitive. It's a lot more interesting when you keep it to let's say, every other day (IF you two have been together for a long time..otherwise, 2-3 times per week).

Keep it interesting by having a life. That's what attracted her in the first place, and it doesn't change.
 

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I dont even have the time to see her everyday. Just have a life and see her 1-4 times a week
 

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i find you don't have to be distant to keep things fresh. i spent almost 24/7 with my woman this summer and i have been with her for almost 5 years. thats why they invented videogames and guitar and tv and movies and cruising and camping, etc.

if you find somebody with the same interests as you. then the distance rule, you don't really need to obey it. we live in a small city where there isn't a whole lot happening but thats why you make things happen. i can only imagine the fun that is going to had when we make the transition to the big city.
 

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Its funny because right when you get a gf, (in my case) she wanted to hang out every effin day.

I made a lot of excuses though and made it a once a week thing. Now after about a year (which i told her i need 2 months away from her, cuz she started to do sh!t i didnt like) we hang out about 3-4 times a week.

Have your life, dont make it spin around her. Keep her wondering what your up to and who your with.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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bud_2005

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In a relationship now and i see her 1-2 days a week. it doesn't sound like much but when you are with her its a lot more special because it's kind of a rare thing.
 

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In a relationship now and i see her 1-2 days a week. it doesn't sound like much but when you are with her its a lot more special because it's kind of a rare thing.
 

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WORKEROUTER said:
Don't see her too often, REGARDLESS of how often you two have dated.

I figured this out by experience. When I end up seeing my gf too often (like every day), it gets repetitive. It's a lot more interesting when you keep it to let's say, every other day (IF you two have been together for a long time..otherwise, 2-3 times per week).

Keep it interesting by having a life. That's what attracted her in the first place, and it doesn't change.
agree with this 220%

I broke up with my ex-girlfriend because she was way too clingy and hung out with me everyday. I just got bored of her and broke up with her. Started dating a new girl two days afterward.

comic_relief
 

Kourt

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I hang out with her nearly every day. But then again I'm in a pretty confusing situation right now. I see her every day, we have sex, we do pretty much everything that a normal couple does but we're not dating. But then again, when I think about it, its like a relationship with none of the costs or respinsibilities. So I'm not really complaining : P
 
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