Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How often are you the AMOG?

How often are you the AMOG?

  • All the time. Not even my friends are safe from my AMOGing.

    Votes: 3 15.8%
  • All the time, but only to people I don't know/like.

    Votes: 4 21.1%
  • Sometimes, and I don't care if I do it to my friends.

    Votes: 3 15.8%
  • Sometimes, but only to people I don't know/like.

    Votes: 9 47.4%
  • Never. I wouldn't like it done to me, so I don't intentionally do it to others.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    19

Sean O

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I don't always care enough to do it, but if I do I won't do it to my friends.

NOTE: By AMOG, I'm specifically referring to a situation where someone is trying to game a girl and you're also gaming her yourself, making it harder for him to do so. There's a difference between being an alpha male and being the Alpha Male Other Guy, IMO.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I only do it when the group I'm with are having a problem making a decision. They're not usually arguing but just confused. That's only 20-25% of the time. That includes times when they appoint me the leader; everyone needs to pull their weight. :D
 

Bvbidd

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I bet every guy thinks they are the AMOG. lol
 

everywomanshero

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Thinking in terms of alpha "being done to/by me" comes out of an unrealistic belief of what constitutes a modern-day alpha male ( no offense, I am not trying to 'AMOG' anyone).

To me being 'alpha' isn't something you 'wouldn't do onto others', because being alpha means *giving* value to the group. Taking charge and making sure all have a good time, reading people and being inclusive, and so on. If one adopts a positive attitude and becomes a cool guy, he 'AMOG''s all the guys by a powerful presence. DO you think Dr. 90120 or some nerdy guy who decides to 'AMOG' him is more likely to go home with a hawtee?

OTOH, associating with 'cool guys' will make you seem cooler by association, and they will tend to rub off as David D claims because we tend to become more like those we spend time with.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bballkilla

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if my friend is trying to game a girl and he got to her first, i'd talk to her a little but i wouldnt start trying to spit harder game than him or something.

with some of my friends we tell each other which girls are ours and the rest of us will lay off a little.
 
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