"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How nice should your 'pad' be or does it matter?

Francisco d'Anconia

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Kevin Andrew said:
I think an orderly and clean "pad" goes a long way to impress a women. That being said nice furniture can't hinder the cause.
:yes: You could have giveaway furniture from Craigslist but what really matters is that the place is clean and clear of smells.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MotownMack

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A lot of comments here I agree with, but none more than this one.

The best girls are looking for a LIFESTYLE!
This is what's at stake. In the cases of extreme messiness, she will view your untidiness as a lifestyle issue. I know first hand, because I screwed it up before by having woman back at my place when I was not intending to (I've told the story on here before, so I won't go into all the details now).

If you're house is really nice, you may get a bonus point. But primarily, it just can't be a dump, and it has to be clean. You young guys will get a bit of a break. Less is probably expected of you as far as how nice the furniture is, and the girl may just be there for a shag anyway.

Older guys like me aren't afforded this luxury. Even with the younger girls I date, they aren't interested in me because I am better looking that dudes that are their own age, 10 or 15 years younger me. The main reason they aren't dating guys their age is because they are after maturity, stability, etc- and a seriously messy house is a sign of chaos.

The same can be said of any woman that is even remotely looking for something more serious than a just getting laid- they'll see a messy place as a negative reflection of your long term potential. And always remember the general rule that the hotter the girl is, the more options she has, and the more likely she will be to judge you on more seemingly minor aspects of your life that she thinks may affect her future with you adversely.

Don't be lazy about it. It's something you should be doing anyway on your way to becoming a DJ, but you don't want to end up screwing it up once you get that far just because you were unprepared. Make sure your house and car are clean, EVEN when you think you're just going to meet a girl down the street for a quick drink- you never know what may happen, and I have learned this the hard way.
 

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I play online poker all day for a living so I'm here a lot and right now this thread is making want to pick up the pop and beer can collection that has gathered on my coffee table and living room floor.
 
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