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How much of attraction is "compatibility"?

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This is an open-ended question. But you hear the word compatibility thrown around. What does it mean and how much does it have to do with attraction?
 

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This is an open-ended question. But you hear the word compatibility thrown around. What does it mean and how much does it have to do with attraction?
First a woman that is not compatible with you will stress you with suggestions and requests to do stuff you dont want do to and create drama when you dont comply...that alone kills libido in many cases.

Second when there are shared hobbies and values, it's much easier to let yourself go then it comes by itself that you are able to release the most inner part of yourself without the conscious brain working non stop as a supervisor.

In order to be attracted from someone you have to let the animal inside you to work.

A 6 that likes to train with you at the gym, have a barbecue together than bang in the swimming pool is much more attractive than an 8 that calls you mid training cause she doesnt want you to be late for that couples date at the modern art theatre.
 

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Compatibility is a reddit blue pill term that is thrown around a lot by simps and feminists. It means nothing.
 

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I think men care about compatibility and for good reason, assuming it’s with someone he wants to date. For a ONS, it’s much less important.

I don’t think women care about compatibility much at all when it comes to attraction. Her tingles have nothing to do with having stuff in common. Oddly, having too much in common can lead to friendzone.
 
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This is an open-ended question. But you hear the word compatibility thrown around. What does it mean and how much does it have to do with attraction?
Physical attraction is part of it but it's not the only factor. Being compatible means that you enjoy spending time together, that you have a similar sense of humour, that you don't argue too much.
 

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I don't think compatibility has anything to do with attraction...however, I DO think it has everything to do with any sort of partnership BEYOND attraction.

For example, I met this really hot girl down at the beach a few years ago and visited her on the way home to hang out and f***. I think I'm very attractive, and I thought she was very attractive - however, she was painfully liberal and spiritual, whereas I lean more to the left and wouldn't consider myself religious or spiritual in any capacity.

Needless to say, we didn't see each other again after that.
 

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This is an open-ended question. But you hear the word compatibility thrown around. What does it mean and how much does it have to do with attraction?
Similar goals, values, and character.

Has very little to do with looks. For women, initial attraction (man's looks) can sometimes be the lead-in but other factors are far more important for a LTR or marriage.
 

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Hi BPH,
"Needless to say, we didn't see each other again after that."But i hope you still Fvucked her,Huh?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Hi Captain,
Back in the day,perceived wisdom was,Opposites attract,but having things in common,is what keeps people together.
 

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So if a hot girl came your way but she was a feminist, would you consider yourself compatible?
Yeah, almost every girl I meet is a feminist nowadays so I'm over it. What women believe in means nothing anyway.
 
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