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how many minutes or date -can u tell shes not the right one

joe45

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was talking to a friend and he was giving me advice on how i should take more time in getting to know the girl before i let it go and say shes not the right one for me.
i can tell. examples. a girl i met we walked 3 blocks and she was tired and didnt want to walk to where the park was. i walk everywhere and like walking on sunny days
another girls-ask me a lot of questions on my financial , where i get my clothes, what i do and my job but never asked about me. what makes me happy, what i like to do, future but just about my material possesions and financial job , status

another girl-- tells me she drank too much on a saturday and threw up all over her bed sheets. not much type since its a turn off at her age 28 .

i talk and meet these girls for 1 hr on a date and sometimes if in a social setting for 15-20 minutes and i can tell if shes my type of not. the connection and chemistry you can just see it there.

how long does it take for you to find out if that person is your type or not or does it take 3 dates to go out wth them more and more.
i like to hear your thoughts

and how can you tell that this person isnt your type any filters
 

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Fly By Night

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What you're doing isn't exactly bad, if you find a woman you like, she will definitely be of quality. Downside is that most women have a rather heavy downside to them. You can keep doing what you do to find Miss. Right, or you can lower your standards (A LITTLE) if you're looking for Miss. Right Now.

I wouldn't say I'm a pro with women, but it could take either the first 30 minutes or up to 2 whole dates to find out if I actually like them. Depends on the date you guys are on, if you are at a club dancing the night away, you are not going to be finding out about her past (you'll find out other things). But if you are doing dinner & movie or some other lame idea that you guys do nothing but talk, then you can find her downsides pretty quick.

P.S. I try to keep light on topics when I'm on dates and focus on having fun. If she's asking you question upon question about your job and your possessions, you should reconsider.
 

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I give it three dates before I call it, even if I know within an hour, it's a way to avoid looking like a judgemental douche (that's how women will paint it, and women know women), the girl can be an in-way to another group of women, and also being on three dates with a girl in strategic locations can up social proof and desirability with other women.
 
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