How Many is Too Many??

[cochise]

I am just curious,

If you were dating a woman and it may be turining into a LTR, and found out about her past, how many would you think is too many for past number of sexual partners?? That is assuming if numbers even matter to you at all.........

I mean I know there are averages out there and the whole woman lie and say less, men lie and say more, but I am just curious, on this board, if you are dating someone and they finally tell you “I have been with x number of people”, and they are completely truthful, what number would make you jump back and say “wow, that is a lot of people..............man you are a skank"...LOL

Say in age range from:

teens to twenty
twenty to twenty-five
twenty-five to thirty
thirty-five to forty

Also, making the assumption they were never married, maybe in a couple long term relationships, but never married.

So, say you are a guy, dating a woman 38 years old, never married, and she finally says “I have been with x number of people”, what would be the number that would make you say, wow, that is just too many sexual partners………

 

[El MonoLoco]

I can't remember who said this I think it was Dave Chappelle

If you ask a woman how many guys she slept with....multiply by 3

If you ask a man how many women he's been with divide by 10.



But personally I don't really care how many she's been with. I'm not gonna tell her how many I've been with....I lie and say like 3 or 4 but who's counting......Even though the # is WAY bigger she doesn't need to know.

I like experienced women....less for me to teach and more for me to enjoy...

 

[vorbis]

well, there's the logical way of thinking and the emotional way. The emotional way for me would be if she had over 15 partners. On some level I would feel that shw wasn't that special. The logical side would be what would be reasonable.

Its perfectly reasonable if she slept with 2 / 3 guys a year. Heck that would be fairly low. (leaving aside LTRs) In your case, a woman of 38 may have been sexually active for 20 years. At 3 partners a year thats 60 partners! On a primal level you'd feel she's a ho but logically she doesn't deserve to be called a slut.

Only you can decide what you can accept though.

 

[\O/]

As a general I would say "Don't ask, don't tell". No matter what she says it will be too many for you!! If you care for her and like her that is.. No good can come from her answer, unless that answer is 0.

I want a girl that is confident with her own sexuality, have some experience yet have slept with few dudes. For my age, 23, I see girls with more than 10 guys as easy. It makes me wonder how lojal and faithful she is. If she have never cheated and slept with all the guys while being single, I could accept a higher number.

In order for us to get sex with lots and lots of girls, there has to be someone who is putting out!

 

[cochise]

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No other opinions?? Thought this would be a hot topic??

 

[Rex Man]

This question is just too complex, look at all the factors.

1.) Was any parners LTR's?

2.) Did she cheat?

3.) Is she telling the truth about the number?

4.) Each generation changes overall (your generation and mine are different for example and therefore certain numbers may or may not be acceptable)

5.)Does it matter if she had 12 partners in one week as opposed to 12 in a 12 years if all both had was 12 partners in all?

These are just a few reasons why you should save yourself some grief.

I prefer to just not ask and not tell unless she is just known as the town ho.

 

[JohnJones]

I do not ask, and I will halt her from telling me by just saying I don't care.

However, if there just seem to be too many stories going around, or too many "friends" in her past/present where I just get the vibe that she's hooked up with them, it can become an issue -- or rather, something I just won't get involved with.

Based on your range, these are my basic amounts:

teens to twenty -- 1-3, max
twenty to twenty-five
twenty-five to thirty -- up to 10
thirty-five to forty -- if I date women that old, I'll figure it out then.

It's a sliding scale -- stuff that happened long ago I don't care about, ONS a long time ago are not a big deal but I won't date long term any chick who gets picked up in a bar or on vacation or otherwise.

Again, I don't think about it unless something calls my attention to it.