"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
how is oneitis different than love?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Love- when both people have mutual feelings of attachment and caring for each other. Usually followed by close physical attachment and bedroom games
Comic_Relief
penkitten
Master Don Juan
alot of people dont know the difference. alot more people discover the difference after the fact, and then they think "oh crap"
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Banned
Tommy rot, thats T.V talk and its usually the other way around if anything. Dudes who thought they were "in love" almost always realise they were not given time + sex + companionship with a chick equal to or better than the chick who he thought he was "in love" with.
I've posted this before and I'll post it again.
"Oneitis" is the same thing just with a seduction community spin on it to give it a clearer explanation for those who are in the know.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
That's not to say many guys (and girls, even in mutual relationships) confuse infatuation with love, which happens all the time.
Like actually knowing the 'answer', if there is one, actually means anything.
You can't peg love down because it's subjective. Plus the fact that so many people who thought they were in love and realized later on that it wasn't exactly love says a lot about the way humans define love.
Give this love crap a rest. If you're happy being with someone, why should you care if it's love, lust, infatuation or just plain fun? Of course everyone would prefer you to be in love. Being with someone because of lust or for fun is a big no-no. Love just sounds so nice and so noble.
There is a difference between love and oneitis. Love sounds so much better than oneitis. However, the two could essentially describe the same thing.