how important is money in a relationship to women?

[Kalel21]

how important is money in relationships?

Is it true that women general go for the bigger better deal? not that there is anything wrong with that but just wondering.

 

[KontrollerX]

Only as important as you paying for your half of the date.

Other than that its not important at all unless you are looking for a goldigger to be your girlfriend.

 

[odietamo]

to my mind, assuming you don't have a golddigger on your hands as Kontroller points out, money is all about ensuring that "dissonance" does not crop up early on in your relationship.

there was a infamous post from a well-respected member of the community who gave the deets of his date where he "itemized" the bill and had to change plans on the fly because the original destination (an aquarium, i believe) cost more than he expected.

to me, while it doesn't reflect poorly on a guy simply because he isn't rolling in money, the bigger problem is the level of dissonance and turbulance allowed to arise by not being able to make things go seemlessly or smoothly. the ambiance is ruined and things just don't have that warm feeling for the girl that you would expect them to have.

making a big production out things like bills, price of admissions, cab fare, etc is basically a DISTRACTION from what your overall objective should be. especially early on you should be non-verbally communicating to the woman that you are smooth, professional, and can conduct yourself in a dignified and experienced manner. your ability to successfully navigate these challenges with a minimum of turburlance says that

and money, in that way, helps.

 

[blueguy]

Don't talk about it.

 

[Chrispy]

What blueguy says - don't make it such a big issue..pay at the very very least for the first date...the 1/2 1/2 thing or her paying can be done later.

 

[squirrels]

You have to have some. How MUCH depends on how you use it.

 

[Latinoman]

Come on guys...read the question. He is not talking about "dates"...he is asking about "relationships".

Money? It is not the MOST important thing for a good woman. But it still a very important component in a relationship.

It has to do more with the compatibility aspect when it comes to economics. Maybe she is the type that loves living with a back-pack and on the road. Maybe you are that type. If that is the case...that's great.

Or maybe she is the type that like to make sure the household and children (future kids) have the basics at the very minimum.

Or maybe she is a very nice woman, but she always get in debts.


Economical compatibility is HUGE in a relationship as has nothing to do with you making lot of money. It has more to do with how you deal with finances.

That being said...who do you think is going to attract a woman more? If you EVERYTHING else as equal between two men...a man that makes 15,000 dollars a year or a man that makes 65,000 dollars a year? Especially if she is making 35,000 dollars a year.

You see the disparity there? Now if the man makes 70,000 dollars a year and the other one is making 150,000 dollar a year...and she is making 35k....I don't think matters in her eyes.

Most women PREFER a man that is making at least as much or nearly as much as they do. And most of the times comes down to making sure children (future) have a better life and also making sure she is not going to be supporting a man.

 

[Kalel21]

Come on guys...read the question. He is not talking about "dates"...he is asking about "relationships".

Money? It is not the MOST important thing for a good woman. But it still a very important component in a relationship.

It has to do more with the compatibility aspect when it comes to economics. Maybe she is the type that loves living with a back-pack and on the road. Maybe you are that type. If that is the case...that's great.

Or maybe she is the type that like to make sure the household and children (future kids) have the basics at the very minimum.

Or maybe she is a very nice woman, but she always get in debts.


Economical compatibility is HUGE in a relationship as has nothing to do with you making lot of money. It has more to do with how you deal with finances.

That being said...who do you think is going to attract a woman more? If you EVERYTHING else as equal between two men...a man that makes 15,000 dollars a year or a man that makes 65,000 dollars a year? Especially if she is making 35,000 dollars a year.

You see the disparity there? Now if the man makes 70,000 dollars a year and the other one is making 150,000 dollar a year...and she is making 35k....I don't think matters in her eyes.

Most women PREFER a man that is making at least as much or nearly as much as they do. And most of the times comes down to making sure children (future) have a better life and also making sure she is not going to be supporting a man.

exactly what I thought.

although still id argue, everything being equal a man making 70k and 150k and a woman making 35k. i would think she would pick the one that has more.

 

[SaucyBoy]

My experience is that younger women don't care as much about that, but they do expect you to have a future. Over 30, they do look at that, mostly since they have children by the Jerk by then and they just need support.

You can't buy respect with money. Money does show that you have some worldly success and that really appeals. If you are the best in your field but it doesn't just rain down the dough that's OK. You have to have enough to have a fun life. You'll get bored if you cannot afford to have fun.