Hello fellow patrons.
I would like to share with you my transition from an AFC to a PUA (yes, i know you have heard this a million of times, and yes it may be boring... But bare with me on this one.)
I started hanging out with popular people in my school in 8th grade, this was due to me having a close friend already in the popular group. However, as all of us at the start, or most of us, I was a AFC and a Nice Guy (Can't tell the difference really).
When a girl said to me, "Hey can you give me that bottle from the table please" I would without consideration give it to her, if a girl asked me "Hey can you clean the board, I'm to tired to do it" I would of course, without consideration do it for her.
Yes, I was surrounded by girls, and i didn't lack any communication or social skills, but nevertheless I always ended up in the Friend-Zone since I was to much of a Nice Guy, and never had the courage to go further than that, fearing rejections and humiliation.
However, I always had these ideas in my head of what I could have done differently in those situations, always a better response, a more ****ier one, a funnier one, millions of ideas just awaiting to be used in these kinds of situations, but since I was to much of a Wuss and a Nice Guy, I choose to oppress these ideas, because I thought that would cause the girl to reject me and not like me.
One of the biggest fears I had was to not be liked, I assume that is a fear generally a lot of people have in a certain part of their life.
So this went on till 9th grade. Then, i moved to England (London).
I had to start fresh, and for the first 6 months, i was trapped at my house, with my computer spending lonely days talking on MSN with friends back in my country.
I was getting frustrated and felt the urge to be surrounded by interesting people. We humans are just not made to be alone, and its painful indeed to be in such a state.
I rarely went out, but the funny thing is, whenever I went out, i met new people and socialized with them, but the fear of the new environment , just terrified me of living my safe cozy house.
Months past, and school was getting better, i started socializing with different people, and made good friends. However, I still was the AFC i was back in my country. And the worst part is, i didn't know that I was.
Couple of months past, a year went. Suddenly something life changing happened, my best friend from my country, send me this book called "The Game" by author Neil Strauss. He told me about this community of Pick-up Artists and what they do. At first, i was just shocked, and quiet skeptical of this community. Then i started reading... And read on and on and on.
I got different e-books from Internet and different videos, all from my best friend. I started reading Neil Strauss, Mystery, Hypnotica, David Deangelo, Ross Jeffries, Mehow and so many other authors.
I got interested in different things like Cold reading, Palm Reading, different exciting games, Cube test and so many other interesting things.
I spent days and days analyzing different videos, and always talked to my friend about these things and speculated with him about different openers, negs, DHV's, Social Interactions etc.
I even went so far to learn about the Female Genitals, the Vulva, Labia Minore/Majore, ****oris and different methods of messaging the female genitals.
I started studying the Erogenous Zones of the female body and many other related things.
I felt like hitting the jackpot. However, I still remained a AFC with some tricks under his Hat.
I felt this hole of emptiness still not being filled with this mass of knowledge.
I soon found out that the problem was I had no confidence inside me, and even though i tried my best to overcome such a thing through learning different openers, negs and social theories, it still kept staying there like a 40ton stone.
I have always been a social person, always loved interacting with people, however i also always had the lack of confidence to reveal my true self to other people.
By now you must be asking yourself, what this topic is about and what is the purpose of this. It'll come soon, bare with me.
Let me fast forward to my nowadays life. And then tell you the secret of my transition.
At my current school in London, I am the leader of my tribe, I am in the popular group, as a matter of fact, I socialize with everyone in my school, but the point being, now if a
girl asks me "Hey can you bring me that bottle from that table?"
My answer will be "Sure...( Walking towards the table where the bottle stands, Grabs the bottle goes to the last table in the row, places the bottle at the last table and comes back to rejoin the girl)"
the girl answers "Why the hell did you do that...?"
My answer "Where's the fun in me getting the bottle without doing some exercise??"
Her answer "Hahaha, ok, you done your exercise now go get me the bottle"
My answer "Its your time to do exercise, I got better things to do now
sorry sweety :S)
The difference between Me back then and Me right now is massive.
Believe it or not, these ideas, those words that you are reading above, were always in my head even back then, but I kept oppressing them.
The impact of this simple scenario was huge, the girl i did this too, was a stranger to me, I had never seen her in the school before. However now, she texts me every day, she follows me around school corridor, and she enjoys my presence. So do the other girls i hang out with.
Of course she got pissed a bit when I went and put the bottle at the last table, however that had an effect on her.
The first time I had sex was with a Slovakian girl at my workplace, the only reason i got to have sex with her was because i applied everything i learned from this forum as well as from different sources.
However, i didn't use Canned material, or openers. I used C&F, I used Negs, Cold Reading, Cube test. I revealed my personality, I told different crazy things I done throughout my life.
I will end before this becomes a formal essay of about 4000 words.
The sole purpose of this topic is to bring a message across.
No matter how many times you have heard this, no matter how cheesy this may sound. The only reason I am not scared of saying my opinions out loud, the only reason why I am myself at all time around everyone, the only reason why I can be a total jerk and get away with it, the only reason why I can approach girls without thinking 20 reasons how she could reject me and the only reason why I see these things as playful games and don't take them seriously is because LIFE IS TO SHORT for such regret.
Yes, you heard it, the most cheesiest line is history. Life is just to short to feel regret, and be shy, it is simply to short to feel anxiety and be scared of things in life. I have learned this through my experience in life. It may sound so easy, but it is the hardest thing to apply to life.
I don't want anymore the short-time pleasure everyone gets after doing something they usually don't, I don't want the feeling to come and go away.
I've put it much effort in achieving this state, I learned that nothing worth striving for comes easy.
I hope you people, and anyone reading this, gets the full message of this topic. I don't ever want to see people think twice before they approach a female, life is just to short to miss opportunities.
P.s. Thanks goes to my best friend for giving me the pathway to this enlightenment. (DTP)
I would like to share with you my transition from an AFC to a PUA (yes, i know you have heard this a million of times, and yes it may be boring... But bare with me on this one.)
I started hanging out with popular people in my school in 8th grade, this was due to me having a close friend already in the popular group. However, as all of us at the start, or most of us, I was a AFC and a Nice Guy (Can't tell the difference really).
When a girl said to me, "Hey can you give me that bottle from the table please" I would without consideration give it to her, if a girl asked me "Hey can you clean the board, I'm to tired to do it" I would of course, without consideration do it for her.
Yes, I was surrounded by girls, and i didn't lack any communication or social skills, but nevertheless I always ended up in the Friend-Zone since I was to much of a Nice Guy, and never had the courage to go further than that, fearing rejections and humiliation.
However, I always had these ideas in my head of what I could have done differently in those situations, always a better response, a more ****ier one, a funnier one, millions of ideas just awaiting to be used in these kinds of situations, but since I was to much of a Wuss and a Nice Guy, I choose to oppress these ideas, because I thought that would cause the girl to reject me and not like me.
One of the biggest fears I had was to not be liked, I assume that is a fear generally a lot of people have in a certain part of their life.
So this went on till 9th grade. Then, i moved to England (London).
I had to start fresh, and for the first 6 months, i was trapped at my house, with my computer spending lonely days talking on MSN with friends back in my country.
I was getting frustrated and felt the urge to be surrounded by interesting people. We humans are just not made to be alone, and its painful indeed to be in such a state.
I rarely went out, but the funny thing is, whenever I went out, i met new people and socialized with them, but the fear of the new environment , just terrified me of living my safe cozy house.
Months past, and school was getting better, i started socializing with different people, and made good friends. However, I still was the AFC i was back in my country. And the worst part is, i didn't know that I was.
Couple of months past, a year went. Suddenly something life changing happened, my best friend from my country, send me this book called "The Game" by author Neil Strauss. He told me about this community of Pick-up Artists and what they do. At first, i was just shocked, and quiet skeptical of this community. Then i started reading... And read on and on and on.
I got different e-books from Internet and different videos, all from my best friend. I started reading Neil Strauss, Mystery, Hypnotica, David Deangelo, Ross Jeffries, Mehow and so many other authors.
I got interested in different things like Cold reading, Palm Reading, different exciting games, Cube test and so many other interesting things.
I spent days and days analyzing different videos, and always talked to my friend about these things and speculated with him about different openers, negs, DHV's, Social Interactions etc.
I even went so far to learn about the Female Genitals, the Vulva, Labia Minore/Majore, ****oris and different methods of messaging the female genitals.
I started studying the Erogenous Zones of the female body and many other related things.
I felt like hitting the jackpot. However, I still remained a AFC with some tricks under his Hat.
I felt this hole of emptiness still not being filled with this mass of knowledge.
I soon found out that the problem was I had no confidence inside me, and even though i tried my best to overcome such a thing through learning different openers, negs and social theories, it still kept staying there like a 40ton stone.
I have always been a social person, always loved interacting with people, however i also always had the lack of confidence to reveal my true self to other people.
By now you must be asking yourself, what this topic is about and what is the purpose of this. It'll come soon, bare with me.
Let me fast forward to my nowadays life. And then tell you the secret of my transition.
At my current school in London, I am the leader of my tribe, I am in the popular group, as a matter of fact, I socialize with everyone in my school, but the point being, now if a
girl asks me "Hey can you bring me that bottle from that table?"
My answer will be "Sure...( Walking towards the table where the bottle stands, Grabs the bottle goes to the last table in the row, places the bottle at the last table and comes back to rejoin the girl)"
the girl answers "Why the hell did you do that...?"
My answer "Where's the fun in me getting the bottle without doing some exercise??"
Her answer "Hahaha, ok, you done your exercise now go get me the bottle"
My answer "Its your time to do exercise, I got better things to do now
sorry sweety :S) The difference between Me back then and Me right now is massive.
Believe it or not, these ideas, those words that you are reading above, were always in my head even back then, but I kept oppressing them.
The impact of this simple scenario was huge, the girl i did this too, was a stranger to me, I had never seen her in the school before. However now, she texts me every day, she follows me around school corridor, and she enjoys my presence. So do the other girls i hang out with.
Of course she got pissed a bit when I went and put the bottle at the last table, however that had an effect on her.
The first time I had sex was with a Slovakian girl at my workplace, the only reason i got to have sex with her was because i applied everything i learned from this forum as well as from different sources.
However, i didn't use Canned material, or openers. I used C&F, I used Negs, Cold Reading, Cube test. I revealed my personality, I told different crazy things I done throughout my life.
I will end before this becomes a formal essay of about 4000 words.
The sole purpose of this topic is to bring a message across.
No matter how many times you have heard this, no matter how cheesy this may sound. The only reason I am not scared of saying my opinions out loud, the only reason why I am myself at all time around everyone, the only reason why I can be a total jerk and get away with it, the only reason why I can approach girls without thinking 20 reasons how she could reject me and the only reason why I see these things as playful games and don't take them seriously is because LIFE IS TO SHORT for such regret.
Yes, you heard it, the most cheesiest line is history. Life is just to short to feel regret, and be shy, it is simply to short to feel anxiety and be scared of things in life. I have learned this through my experience in life. It may sound so easy, but it is the hardest thing to apply to life.
I don't want anymore the short-time pleasure everyone gets after doing something they usually don't, I don't want the feeling to come and go away.
I've put it much effort in achieving this state, I learned that nothing worth striving for comes easy.
I hope you people, and anyone reading this, gets the full message of this topic. I don't ever want to see people think twice before they approach a female, life is just to short to miss opportunities.
P.s. Thanks goes to my best friend for giving me the pathway to this enlightenment. (DTP)