"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How hard is too hard?

dannowillbookem

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i've found myself pretty good at playing the c&f card...although i fear i may be too good. often girls will call me mean and my friends will laugh and say i'm an ass to chicks. i dont pry on things that hit too close to home (one of my friends cracked on this thin girl who was once much chubbier and asked if she was anorexic...to find out she was. smooth) but is there a time to just let up?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TACH

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You know the C&F is rollin when she commits suicide.. then you can chill, on her.

They key to c&f is to just be natural with it and use common sense, if you think saying something might be over the line(smokey this is bowling not 'nam)
then don't say it. Unless of course the ***** needs to be negged a bit to bring her back to reality. But that's a different story. Just use your better judgement..
 

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Maybe focus ur C&F a little more in the direction of joking about how much she has the hots for you, how much she wants you, how your too charming and stuff like that.

Make sure you mix it up. And when you say how hot you are and things of that nature, ALWAYS throw in a "I'm just kidding
hahaha"


If all you do is neg-hit her all the time, soon she is just gunna think ur an ass and not wanna hang around you anymore. So becareful of goin too far.
 

dannowillbookem

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Originally posted by ghostin
Make sure you mix it up. And when you say how hot you are and things of that nature, ALWAYS throw in a "I'm just kidding
hahaha"
wouldn't weaken my show of rediculous confidence?
 

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reassure her of your weakness? are you serious? you never say you are kidding. you mean everything you say. ****Y and funny. note the ****y. ****y will get you a lot more than funny will anyday of the week.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yeah, but say it's a joke with your eyes. Prop your head up a bit and stare into space like you're envisioning how great you are in your own head.

Or else you come off as arrogant, not ****y.
 
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