How does one get higher social status in college

[John_Smith]

Hi,

I am heading off to college in September and I was wondering how does one climb high in the social ladder in college. I am not interested in being a "poser" or anything (e.g. please i dont need fashion advice). But i am interested in what type of school activities I can do to increase social status.

I am well aware that in college its not like in high school where playing on a certain team will guarentee girls flocking around you. However, I would think that some social status is definitely a plus.

Here are the list of must do thing for me:

1) Study hard (i need to get an MBA and grad school requires high marks)

2) Start my own business in college from the dorm room

3) And get involved in some school activities

I can't really change any of the activities, but how may i build some more status with what i am doing?

 

[John_Smith]

anyone?

 

[oakraiderz2]

Uhhh...talk to a lot of people?

 

[Iceberg]

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Uhhh...talk to a lot of people?

Yeah, seriously. That's what was great about college. There aren't cliques in the same way that there are in high school. You can be everyone's friend. If people didn't want to make friends at college, they would commute instead of live on campus. Everyone is there to make friends.

1. You could join a frat.
2. You could participate in some type of atheletics.
3. You could just party a lot.

I think I was pretty popular in college. I can't speak for other people as to why they wanted to be friends with me. I wasn't in a frat and I didn't play sports. I was just open minded and I liked to party. I guess a lot of people saw me at a lot of parties and next thing I knew, people were saying "hi" to me in the hallways.

You want to gain social status? Go out and be seen. Don't be that guy who sits on the couch playing Xbox with his room mates. Eat dinner out, eat breakfast out, work out, study in the library, just stay out of your apartment/dorm unless it's where you're bringing a chick to bang.

I love this website and everything it stands for, but I gotta be honest, I hadn't posted here for the past 2 or 3 years because I was away at school living it up. Just remember that people can't see you if you're stashed away in your dorm room.

 

[aftershock]

Agree with Iceberg here. Nobody remembers the nobodys.

I was, and still am in halls (dorms as you call it in USA?).

I made a point of talking to every person that there was and having a short conversation.

Ask them where there from, what theyre studying, etc. If you figure out that you have something in common then chat for a short while, then just move on.

Don't make ANY moves in the first week, I'd say - you will be seeing plenty of girls. Many of them are innocent and naive, and you will put these types off if you have three girls in your bed in the first week. Get numbers though.

Interestingly enough, people were actually talking about me, saying most guys are shy, but then saying have you met aftershock yet, he's about the only guy who actually talks to you, and then girls will introduce their new friends to you etc.

I did and still do have a girlfriend, so I had to dissapoint them. I mean, I can't help being attractive, can I?

 

[Interpol]

1. Join a fraternity

2. Join a club that interests you

3. Go out to bars, parties, social events, etc. 4-5 nights a week (yes, you can still get good grades)

4. Get to know upperclassmen

5. Find out who the "big players" (meaning the important people in the social scene) are and get to know them

6. Define a reputation for yourself

7. Find a top shelf wingman: ideally this should be a popular upperclassmen who can teach you how the social scene works and serve as a teacher and mentor

Just go out and get your name out there any way possible. Go to www.thefacebook.com and join it if your school supports it. I'm going to be a college junior next fall and I've realized in my first two years that social proof is 50% of the game in college (if not more). You know people and you can make things happen, period. A bad reputation is better than no reputation at all.

 

[Abbott]

Originally posted by Iceberg
Yeah, seriously. That's what was great about college. There aren't cliques in the same way that there are in high school. You can be everyone's friend. If people didn't want to make friends at college, they would commute instead of live on campus. Everyone is there to make friends.

1. You could join a frat.
2. You could participate in some type of atheletics.
3. You could just party a lot.

I think I was pretty popular in college. I can't speak for other people as to why they wanted to be friends with me. I wasn't in a frat and I didn't play sports. I was just open minded and I liked to party. I guess a lot of people saw me at a lot of parties and next thing I knew, people were saying "hi" to me in the hallways.

You want to gain social status? Go out and be seen. Don't be that guy who sits on the couch playing Xbox with his room mates. Eat dinner out, eat breakfast out, work out, study in the library, just stay out of your apartment/dorm unless it's where you're bringing a chick to bang.

I love this website and everything it stands for, but I gotta be honest, I hadn't posted here for the past 2 or 3 years because I was away at school living it up. Just remember that people can't see you if you're stashed away in your dorm room.

Hm...you think that living off-campus really hurts you in that respect?

I cannot live in any kind of on-campus or frat house arrangement. Is the downside regarding making friends really that significant?



As far as joining a fraternity, I know there are certain downsides (like the reputation that fraternities have). But plenty of advantages too. Apart from finding one that doesn't require you to live in their house at all (it's something I need), got any good ideas or tips to help me get into one?

I go to a community college now, but I'll most likely go back to a four year school in about a year or two, and I'll have an oppurtunity. I'll be 21 by that time, which I'm sure will help my case. My only other oppurtunity would be grad school, so I want to make the best of my chances.


Ben

 

[Alpine]

Spree killings will up your status.

 

[Iceberg]

Originally posted by Abbott
Hm...you think that living off-campus really hurts you in that respect?

I cannot live in any kind of on-campus or frat house arrangement. Is the downside regarding making friends really that significant?

Hey, life is what you make it. It's just that in my experience, people who live off campus don't have the same network of social events as people who live on campus. I made friends with some girl in one of my classes who lived about 20 minutes off campus, you'd be suprised how far out of the social loop she was. She was a cute girl and a nice person, but she knew no one and no one knew her.

Since you're going to community college, I don't think you'd have the chance to live on campus anyway, since community colleges don't have dorms. At least the ones in America don't. When you finally do go away to 4 year school, try your best to live on campus, that's the real college experience.

 

[John_Smith]

i dont really know about any frats in canada