"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How does dating change depending on how old you are?

Mr Wright

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Now at 21 I'm find that even when I'm seeing girls I'm not having to take them out on dates to sleep with them. It's pretty easy at university to get a girl around under any pretense. I've also done the whole "come round to mine at 7 and then we'll head out" thing so many times, I usually get out of the shower about 10 minutes before shes due to arrive. Then when she's at the door, I'm in my dressing gown talking about how I had an important call to take so I'm running late. So when they come in, I apologise, offer them a drink and start talking to them about anything. After 15-20 mins, she's settled and can't really be bothered to go out so you settle down and watch tv etc etc.

However, I can't see this working forever, so like through the ages how do things change? Because right now I literally don't give two craps about the girls character or anything like that, I rarely see them out of a sexual context but oddly enough these girls seem to be connected to me simply because they've slept with me a few times and I'm not a complete d!ck. I like girls but I can't be bothered to go on however many dates, which it seems that older guys are doing to get them into bed.

In a few months, I won't have the steady stream of girls that I have now because things will change so I need a new way to have regular access to cute girls, might need to get a job in a bar where some cute girls work and get into their social circles. I have no interest in online dating.

So I'm asking, where do you find most of your dates? What kind of things do you do to progress things?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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logicallefty

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In my experience online dating is great for tapping some a** but I don't suggest going into it and coming out with a LTR. If you have time read my post in Mature Man titled "My Hallmark Channel Story" to see what happened to me from a b**** I met online. The women I posted about isn't the only online troublemaker I have engaged in LTR with, she was just the worst.

As far as getting the quick lay, you can absolutely do that when you get older, just like you do now. When I was 38 I went and got my taxes done at a local HR Block. Hit it off with my tax preparer who I had never met until that day, also 38. Got her number. Asked her out for a "drink" a few days later and she said "I don't have a babysitter, just come to my place to see me". Came to her place. She put the daughter to bed.. And mommy and I f***** all night. It was a very "cut to the chase" experience" and required no wineing or dining, or cash. Good luck man
 

El Payaso

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There's no need to be worried about that right now. You're terribly young at 21. By the time you hit your 40's, the saying landscape would be a lot different than what people in their 40's are now used to.
 
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