"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you pass women shlt test??

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Any examples from trying to get you jealous, ignoring your text and/or calls, acting distant in conversations, chics going through midlife crisis (supposedly this happens when you get to no them)

How do you pass these test?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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By acting like you've seen it happen a zillion times and it doesn't affect you anymore. Tests are often ways to put you in uncomfortable situations to see how you are going to react. Not much fun, but it's just the way it is.

Act bored with the test and use it as a reason to lower your own interest level, which is the real answer to all the stuff on this site: how to control your own interest level.
 

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trying to get you jealous - don't try to make her jealous back, but act like it doesn't bother you
ignoring your calls - don't talk to her till she calls you back. she says anything, just say you were busy.

basically you need to stay busy, act like nothing bothers you, and focus everything around yourself and pretty much act like you don't care
 

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foomee said:
basically you need to stay busy, act like nothing bothers you, and focus everything around yourself and pretty much act like you don't care
The nasty side effect of this, is if you keep acting this way, eventually you will really be this way. You can see it coming a mile away, it can't bug you if it doesn't catch you off guard.
 

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Have you ever consiered the fact that these aren't tests?

It might be a lack of respect and or low interest if any interest at all.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Test or not, don't let anyone control your emotions; it's giving way any power or personal control.
 

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Faded Image said:
Have you ever consiered the fact that these aren't tests?

It might be a lack of respect and or low interest if any interest at all.
You have a point cause i have found that the women who really liked my gave my no BS at all until they stopped liking me....
 

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Faded Image said:
Have you ever consiered the fact that these aren't tests?

It might be a lack of respect and or low interest if any interest at all.
Possibly but tests are the same thing. I don't agree that interested women act like little angels 100% of the time. They pull stuff to make you mad out of the blue just to see what you'll do and if you're man enough. Just expect it and it will turn more into boredom than anger. The more boring she becomes the less likely you'll want to be around her and the more likely if she's interested she'll change her behavior, sometimes over-compensating, which lets you know that it was indeed a test.
 

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Possibly but tests are the same thing. I don't agree that interested women act like little angels 100% of the time. They pull stuff to make you mad out of the blue just to see what you'll do and if you're man enough.
What do they want men to do when they put the shlt test on you guys from your experience? And how man enough to they want us to be?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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to pass a woman's test means basically doing the opposite of what you're supposed to do. They are only testing you to see if you actually have a backbone or if you are an afc like the 95% of guys out there.

she doesn't answer your calls on purpose = do opposite if what you're supposed to do, don't call her again and wait for her to call you

asks you go get something for her = tell her to get her fat ass off the couch and get it herself

etc etc. Whatever the "right thing" you are supposed to do, do the opposite. Don't be a good boy.
 

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This applies in the work-place as well. Attractive chick at my work, delays on giving me something I need (only once so far). They do this to force you to call them to ask, and you can't get around it. Knowing this, I wait. Next day "hey reset did you still need that thing?" me "yup". Another day. At this point I'm forced to call. Leave a mesage. "it's reset. I need that thing." click.
Then I get a return phone-call all sheepish and apologetic. She was waiting for me to remind her before she even started on it.

So as she's being all apologetic, I just sit there in dead silence and listen to her get all worked up and embarrassed. "thanks, bye."

Then like three more phone calls asking if I got it, yes I got it, then another one asking if it worked alright. "Yeah, thanks." Click.

Putting you in situations where you are likely to lose your cool shows them what you feel about them. If you get all worked up, and angry, you've shown her that yes, indeed her little games have a huge effect on you, and also that you don't have much self-control. Any time you lose your cool you fail your own **** test.

Better to just be bored and annoyed. Whatever you do, don't give them MORE ATTENTION because of the shyt test. Bad behavior, you withdraw attention. You have to train them.
 

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By being congruent and aligned and centered in who you are, what your values are, what you will and wont tolerate -- and staying lighthearted.

Do that and it will = :moon: Then insert doggy style, pull her hair gentle, slap her ass. Well that's the hardcore rough quickie version anyways. ;)
 

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If you care less than they do, you will always come out on top.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tick37 said:
If you care less than they do, you will always come out on top.
That's basically it, yeah. At first you pretend to not care, then you kind of start, not caring. Takes some practice though. You have to get through a few of these things and realize it just toughened you up that much more.
 
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