How do you make her feel bad without making myself look desperate?

[hfxchef]

Hey guys,

I've been talking to this girl in my Culinary class for about 4 weeks. She's hot, and has a really attractive personality that makes me want her even more. She's that type of woman where you tell yourself, "I have to get that."

Anyways, she shows the obvious signs that she likes me.. she smiles at me (sometimes she'll even turn around in class and smile at me for 3 seconds..), she touches me, etc. I have this gut feeling as well. She had a boyfriend during the first 2 weeks of knowing her, but she dumped him really fast (a sign she's ready to move on?)

So today is, hopefully, going to be our first date. I told her that I was going to do x - and she asked if she could do it with me, and I agreed (she's done it a few times, I've never done it before - I'm more curious than anything else), and we planned to go today, on Friday, to a glow in the dark mini putt place and to a movie, and then back to my house, probably.

But, of course, luck is not on my side. Her father told her yesterday that he's going to a party and that she has to stay behind and babysit (her mom works the late night shift). So today, while we were cooking, she told me this, and I told her I was dissapointed (wrong thing to say, I know) and she agreed and said that she's been looking forward to this since we planned it on Monday and that she dosen't want to be stuck in the house all night.

So she said what she is going to do is lie to her father and say that she has to go to her friend's birthday or something and she has to go to the bars. I'm hoping it will work, but here's my question:

I told her to call me at 6pm, which she'll do to tell me if she can go with me or not - if she says no, how do I react to make her feel sort of bad - but not to make me look desperate? A response which would make her want to hang out with me as soon as possible, but, like I said, without looking desperate (I'm really not desperate).

Thanks.

 

[Faded Image]

That's the wrong thing to do.

Why do you want to make her feel bad for something she can't control?

Sure girls lie about things like that, but don't make her feel bad cause it's only going to backfire on you when you get over it.
Sometimes things like this actually happen.

If she can't go tonight mark it as a warning sign. If it happens again DX (A term we use in the military for "Direct Exchange") for another girl or next her.

If you can't have fun on your own, how are you going to show somebody a good time when they're out with you?

"mosteliteman" out!

 

[Chrisman]

You should have the attitude when she calls and if she says no, that she's the one missing out because you're going to have a real good time with or without her. Tell her you'll give her a call sometime in the future to come out and have fun with ya.

 

[hfxchef]

You're right. I'll just tell her that it's ****ty that she can't go and I'll tell her to have a good weekend.

She told me she's going to try everything in her power to go out with me tonight, and if she can't, there's nothing I can do. Ah well. I should have another girl to call (I'm new at this. )

I'm trying to be optomistic about this situation - I really want to go out with her tonight (she's busy tommorow - I should be too).

 

[Desdinova]

Her IL is obviously very high. There's no reason to make her feel like 5hit. Her father's already doing that.

If she doesn't go, just plan another date with her.

 

[Dr Box]

Originally posted by Chrisman
You should have the attitude when she calls and if she says no, that she's the one missing out because you're going to have a real good time with or without her. Tell her you'll give her a call sometime in the future to come out and have fun with ya.

Pretty much exactly what I was going to say, that is how I would handle the situation.