She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This is very sad.. but it doesn't surprise me at all. Most modern women have penis envy and hate men for a number of reasons. They hate us for being physically stronger than them. They hate us because society judges us by our accomplishments and not just our bodies. They hate that men can rape them. They hate that men can have kids basically their whole lives.. while women have a short time period. They hate that all women's power comes from sex appeal.GotED? said:But having seen my 1st wife manipulate and using the leverage of me loving my son beyond all other things in life and thinking I would never leave the family structure because of it, she started to become a major b!tch at the end of our marriage and thought because of her 'assumption' of leverage with our child that she can abuse me and act like a feminist p!g.
I walked out on that marriage after she attempted to hit me while I was holding my 3yr old son in one arm. It doesn't get lower than that, doing it in front of the kid and while I am holding him.
Children are wonderful - BUT if your heart is NOT in it, don't even test the water if you don't have temperament and patience. However, women expoit men with our children often once a marriage starts to go sour.
Now I am 40 and looking back at all the crazies - sometimes I am coming to the conclusion that it is safer just to be alone because once you love something so deeply as your own child and have it separated from you, that is probably the next worst thing than having your child die before you.
With respect,
Exodus
Only thing that came to mind after reading that was: FVCK THESE BISHES!!!PlayHer Man said:Women will relentlessly seek out your weaknesses from day one of meeting you. Once she finds them.. she will use them to control you. It can be sex, insecurity, pride, or in your case.. your love for your kid.
This is the mentality I don't understand. In 100 years I'll be dead, whether or not I've reproduced. Even if I do have kids and my genes "live on," what benefit do I see personally? I'm dead, so none.Skalioppe said:Kids are your route to immortalisation
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.