how do you deal with this certain type of heartbreak?

[ohiobohio518]

There are many ways a heart can be broken. The girl could tell you that she doesn't feel the same way about you, or that she doesn't feel the same way about you ANYMORE, or that she is seeing someone else, or whatever.

Among these, the worst type in my opinion is when you go to a party, and witness, firsthand, your girl hooking up with someone (or more than one). I've stumbled upon this in more than one occasion, namely last night. Even though I was absolutely hammered, I distinctly remember what went on, and the image keeps replaying over and over again in my head and I feel absolutely terrible. After it happend, I ditched her and vowed never to speak to her ever again, but it still hurts. It doesn't help that this is the second such occurance in as many weeks. I've dealt with both by ending everything at that moment, but it doesn't mean I feel good about it. How do I deal with this?

 

[Fash]

Dude,

Did you say she hooked up with more than one guy at the party???

It is simple...

From now on, when you meet a girl.... BEFORE you start developing actually feelings for her, you need to make sure she isn't a ho'.

Move on man. If she is gonna let you go for some idiot at a house party, then she clearly doesnt deserve a guy that actually cares about it.

Stop running the image through your head. It is not your heart that is hurting, it is your ego. We've all had similar sh!t happen to us too. Learn to control your ego, yet understand your worth.

Now... Go out, sarge, and f-close 20 HBs immediately. By the end of it, i'll be surprised if you still even rememered this chick's name.

 

[Desdinova]

How do I deal with this?

The same way you deal with every other "heartbreak" - cut contact, date other women, and let time eliminate the emotion from the memories.

 

[ohiobohio518]

Did you say she hooked up with more than one guy at the party???

It is simple...

From now on, when you meet a girl.... BEFORE you start developing actually feelings for her, you need to make sure she isn't a ho'.

This was someone else. Not last night's.

Stop running the image through your head. It is not your heart that is hurting, it is your ego. We've all had similar sh!t happen to us too. Learn to control your ego, yet understand your worth.

I'm not sure what you mean. I always thought it was my heart that was hurting. How is it my ego that's hurting?

PS Thanks for the support guys, it makes me feel better just spilling my emotions. None of my friends are awake right now.

 

[Fash]

I'm not sure what you mean. I always thought it was my heart that was hurting. How is it my ego that's hurting?

What I mean is that men HATE it when another guy takes our woman, or our woman leaves us for another guy. Sometimes it is not really because you have lost the girl, it is because your alphaness/manhood has been hurt.

We are men at the end of the day and we are somewhat protective over our women.

Just understand that there are sometimes situations in life we can't control, and people we can't change. See this as a learning experience and next time, spend more time getting know the kinda girl she is before you start to develop feelings for her.