how do we stay "in the good"?

[Once Bitten]

I have had issues with every ex I've had, with them blabbing bs about me to their friends. It's the way women in my neck of the woods do.Then they tell their friends, on and on. Now I would understand if I was a buthead, but I'm not. They usually end it, their friends fix them up with a taller, higher value guy. After two marriages, I need to move. So I guess I need to do that. Maybe it's the area I live in, maybe not. Even some women complain about this phenomenon. They usually move away.

I see you all here "spinning plates", which sounds all good in theory. But I can't imagine anyone getting away with that where I live. Smalltown country America. How do you guys spin plates without getting socially "busted" for it...do that sh!t here and you'd have a 24/7 hotline amongst the women (don't go out with him, he's a player!"

I'm the only one from a marriage of only kids, and I ended up with just one kid myself. I'm waiting till she graduates before I move (2 years). She doesn't like it around here either, and wants to move away too.

How do you spin plates and not have issues?? I kneed to know...

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

It can work both ways. If you are up front and are pretty clear about your intentions e.g. "I just want to **** you" then it can help if women think you are a playah and want to take you for a test ride for themselves.
Or
You get a reputation as a sleazy creep.

Seriously though, get some hobbies or activities away from where you live. Make your social circle better.

 

[xstang77]

I have the exact same issue as you op,due to low life ex's in a small area,my best advice is meet girls a little outside the influence area or if you have family that has coworkers try to set up connections through them.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

Women all say they hate a player but 90% will drop panty immediately for one. I'd rather take that hit than, "he's a doormat"
You want women lining up to fvck you, not lining up to fvck you, if you catch my drift. It is harder in a small town, though.

 

[CMNILS87]

The trick is...if they find you valuable. They know you're casually dating, they just don't want to know about the other women. If they find out, either they try harder or they are turned off.