I'm 40 years old and like to date women who are 27-35 (before they get too desperate to find a husband, too needy, etc.) How do I deal (especially when online dating when a woman wants to date guys who are e.g. 28-35)--with the often unstated objection, "You're too old for me."?
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How do I respond to "You're too old for me."?
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The Bad Ass Canadian
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Nothing you can do about it aside from lying about your age... which i wouldn't recommend.
If they think you're too old, that's their decision.
find the ones who don't mind that you're 40.
BTW: If you're balding, have a beer gut and have never been married then yeah, you are too old.
On the other hand, if you've kept in shape and don't "look" 40 then I don't think age really matters. I'm 27 and I've dated 38 yr olds and 19yr olds at the same time. Age REALLY doesn't matter, as long as you're "Mr. Current Affairs" and know what's up. Don't get caught in the generation gap. You gotta keep on top of things as far as style, fashion and pop culture is concerned.
Be a modern man and no one will care..... or at least they will care very little.
I find it funny that 35 yr olds would be shooting you down. Men age better than women and by the time she's 40, things will look alot worse for her, than you.
If they think you're too old, that's their decision.
find the ones who don't mind that you're 40.
BTW: If you're balding, have a beer gut and have never been married then yeah, you are too old.
On the other hand, if you've kept in shape and don't "look" 40 then I don't think age really matters. I'm 27 and I've dated 38 yr olds and 19yr olds at the same time. Age REALLY doesn't matter, as long as you're "Mr. Current Affairs" and know what's up. Don't get caught in the generation gap. You gotta keep on top of things as far as style, fashion and pop culture is concerned.
Be a modern man and no one will care..... or at least they will care very little.
I find it funny that 35 yr olds would be shooting you down. Men age better than women and by the time she's 40, things will look alot worse for her, than you.
hmmmmmmm......
Her: You're too old for me..
You: I tell you what... Come on ONE date with me, and at the end of the date you can tell me if you really think that I'm too old for you or not
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This will make you out to be a confident person, and will make her eager to find out what you have up your sleeve that will make her think that you are NOT too old for her.
If she still has a problem with your age, then obviously she isn’t interested in you, and accordingly, you should tell her that you wont take up any more of her time, tell her to enjoy the rest of her evening, and NEXT her
Good luck
Laterz...
Her: You're too old for me..
You: I tell you what... Come on ONE date with me, and at the end of the date you can tell me if you really think that I'm too old for you or not
" This will make you out to be a confident person, and will make her eager to find out what you have up your sleeve that will make her think that you are NOT too old for her.
If she still has a problem with your age, then obviously she isn’t interested in you, and accordingly, you should tell her that you wont take up any more of her time, tell her to enjoy the rest of her evening, and NEXT her
Good luck
Laterz...
Don Juanabbe
Master Don Juan
If she thinks you're too old, and you push it, you will be approaching from a supplicant frame or mindset. By jumping through hoops like this, you are already handing over your power. This is just another sh*t test.
I know a 49 year old who regularly scores with 24 year olds.
I know a 49 year old who regularly scores with 24 year olds.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I couldn't have said it any better. Either the chick sees that you can handle your own or she has some personal belief that she goes by. If she has one as lame as age, who knows what others she may have.Don Juanabbe said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree. I'm 29, my gf is 21 and most the women I've dated are the same age. I'm often told I look much hotter than guys 10 years my junior so I also agree that keeping yourself in shape and looking good makes all the difference.The Bad Ass Canadian said:
Generally when a woman has any doubts there's very little you can say to change their mind. Like Don Juanabbe said...