First off, I used to be on these forums daily and they helped me get to where I am now after many years of being clueless. It's good to drop in and see things still going here.
While I'm confident in myself in most situations now, I am still learning. Which brings me here to ask a question about my current relationship with a girl I found that is more compatible than any I've ever met...
We're both 28, been together 3 months without a problem. She's always helpful, non-judgemental, and looking out for my best interest. We have both been through hard times in our lives and being able to share those things really makes us connect. She tells me all the time how she is so in love with me, how comfortable she is with me, the sex is the best ever, etc. the usual a girl would say to achieve her goal of locking a guy down but with her it just seems so much more genuine and sincere. I can see she really cares about our relationship.
The thing is the guy she was last in a relationship with is the only thing I'm trying to understand. She has hardly mentioned him except for that the relationship was horrible and she doesn't know what she was thinking at the time. The guy was the typical player, fun-outgoing type (a phase I went through as well) but he had a drug problem. She didn't know about the drug problem when they started dating, but found out later on. She told me she pretty much took care of the guy bc she felt guilty after telling his parents and they kicked him out of the house. She gave him money, etc but eventually broke up with him in the end.
Now, about a month or so in, she told me she had a dream the guy overdosed and got worried so she called him to check on him. She said he acted very mean towards her--- that is all I heard about it. I did ask her if there was any baggage I should be aware of and she assured me there wasn't. To this day, I see this guy liking all her Instagram and Facebook pics and I just wonder if I could possibly be missing something.
What do you guys think and how do I handle this? I don't want to let this guy get in my head or anything but I'm also considering this is a girl I want to be with for a while.
While I'm confident in myself in most situations now, I am still learning. Which brings me here to ask a question about my current relationship with a girl I found that is more compatible than any I've ever met...
We're both 28, been together 3 months without a problem. She's always helpful, non-judgemental, and looking out for my best interest. We have both been through hard times in our lives and being able to share those things really makes us connect. She tells me all the time how she is so in love with me, how comfortable she is with me, the sex is the best ever, etc. the usual a girl would say to achieve her goal of locking a guy down but with her it just seems so much more genuine and sincere. I can see she really cares about our relationship.
The thing is the guy she was last in a relationship with is the only thing I'm trying to understand. She has hardly mentioned him except for that the relationship was horrible and she doesn't know what she was thinking at the time. The guy was the typical player, fun-outgoing type (a phase I went through as well) but he had a drug problem. She didn't know about the drug problem when they started dating, but found out later on. She told me she pretty much took care of the guy bc she felt guilty after telling his parents and they kicked him out of the house. She gave him money, etc but eventually broke up with him in the end.
Now, about a month or so in, she told me she had a dream the guy overdosed and got worried so she called him to check on him. She said he acted very mean towards her--- that is all I heard about it. I did ask her if there was any baggage I should be aware of and she assured me there wasn't. To this day, I see this guy liking all her Instagram and Facebook pics and I just wonder if I could possibly be missing something.
What do you guys think and how do I handle this? I don't want to let this guy get in my head or anything but I'm also considering this is a girl I want to be with for a while.
