"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do I prevent this chick from flaking?

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I asked this girl on Tuesday if she wanted to go to a kickback on Friday with me and my friends. I'll called her up tonight (Thursday) to give her the details and see what kind of beer she wanted. She gave me some info about that, but then said "but I might not be able to go". Now we've been planning this for a while and it would suck big time if she couldnt go. I've really been looking forward to hanging out with her. What can I do to stop her from flaking on me tomorrow night? PLEASE RESPOND!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Put simply LaDanian Tomlinson,
You can't.

All you can do is show her how much fun she will have if she doesn't go. A woman is going to flake if she want's too. Just have too look at it as her loss.
But if she does flake on you, don't bring it up too her. Just mention how much fun you guys had that night.
 
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are you serious dude? there is absolutley nothing else i can do? ****...
 

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Tell her "Ok,no biggie,this is your chance to hang out with the best guy to happen to you though". From there you hang up,if she wants you she will call back,they always do.
 

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The thing is, if you try to get her not to flake you are going to be appear desperate and that is the last thing you want to appear.

Read,
Kill that Desperation by Pook
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I posted this just now in another thread. Attempting to exert control over a situation that is in and of itself uncontrollable is a sign of weakness.

Some situations you can control, and others you simply have to react to. This is one you react to.
 
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