How do I not appear beta around people who smoke or do drugs?

[SilverSonnet]

Hi folks, I've encountered this weird thing recently....I myself don't smoke or take drugs, I'm a fairly clean living guy. Some of the social situations I've been in lately have been with friends or family who do smoke and do take drugs.

When they offer me some drugs, like weed or a bucket or a pipe, or some speed or pills, I have to say no, as I honestly have no interest. But everyone else in the social group does the drugs, and keep pressuring me by saying 'go on, we're all having some, what's wrong with you?' etc.

It's almost as if I'm beta or 'a wimp' or somehow 'less manly' because I don't want to take a drug. And I'm really ****ed off about this.

I choose my friends carefully and am weeding out those who do this sort of thing. But I do happen to like my cousins, the only thing is that they all do recreational drugs, and I am the odd one out, so it makes socialising with them difficult.

Basically, I need some ideas how to deal with this in an alpha way. I want to tell them I'm not interested, without appearing snobbish or less manly etc. I'm pretty ****ing angry as I write this, cos I can't ****ing believe I've lost my frame here.

Thanks.

Dude, I can tell you one thing right now. I respect you man. For not giving in under peer pressure, and taking drugs. They'll **** up your life big time. I know a guy in my french class, and he says they they make you see fvcked up stuff etc, ddont do 'em bro.
here's a good newsflash for you: YOUR MORE MANLY FOR NOT TAKING THEM, AND STICKING TO YOUR GUNS THAN ANY OF THEM WHO GIVE IN TO PEER PRESSURE!
Just say to them "Listen, I'm not going to take drugs with you. i think they're stupid, a waste of time and money, and I dont know about you guys, but I've got better things to do with my life, than waste it."

Try it.

 

[SilverSonnet]

Drinking is just as bad as doing drugs... I do not know why everyone gives drinking a free pass...I do not know the difference of doing drugs and drinking socially its the same ****... When you think about it everyone does drugs and drinking because they are uncomfortable with who they are... Anyway why hang around people that do things you don't like doing.

No offense, but are you fvcking stupid? Drugs are illegal for valid reasons. Drinking moderately and intelligently is fine, and a fun time, so I hear. But drugs, are sure to fvck you up, and empty your pockets. I have no problem with people doing drugs, drinking and smoking, but as soon as they try to push me into doing it, i wont stand for it, ok?

 

[Lion]

Drugs are low. I've always felt this way about them. I've distanced myself from aquaintances who do them.

This was easy as they weren't much fun to be around anyway. I was concerned that I would have no friends but if you go out, join some clubs etc... you will find the right friends