How do I handle this situation with this girl i really like?

[Butterfly555]

So its this girl that i really like and care for she got real upset and disgusted with me because I became jealous and mad at my so called friend when he was talking to her in a "more than friends" type of way.
I got mad over a similar situation earlier this year but i guess she forgave me she said I lied about being mad both times witch i did but she lied also saying she had no feelings toward my so called friends. But the thing is I never really told her i liked her i just SHOWED her I like her and care for her. I dont understand why she would lie if she didn't care for me back my friend showed me texts. I just regret letting my jealously get to my head. IM not in the least bit desperate there plenty of other girls i could get with. But its just something about her that's different than any other girl iv'e ever met IVE NEVER DID THE THINGS i DO FOR HER than any other girl ive been with SHE' s special. SO I NEED I JUST NEED SOME ADVICE ON HOW I SHOULD APPROACH THIS SITUATION HELP Will be HIGHY APPRECIATED.

 

[Butterfly555]

come on 41 views and no advice smh

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Butterfly--

Few questions:

1. What did she do with your friends and what did the text messages he showed you say?

2. You weren't dating her/in a relationship with her at all?

3. How did you respond to her?

4. Has she shown explicit interest in you also?

Give us some more info -- jealousy can be a natural emotion, but how we deal with it and perceive it is important...and honestly, there are times that a girl is disrespecting you also, so this is a fine line sort of subject...but give some details here.

5. Last question: where do you presently stand with her and how did this argument end?

 

[Diaforetikos]

First off, she's not special. She isn't. Period. Don't treat her like she is and don't act like she is. You have put her on a pedestal. Time to knock her on her buttcheeks.

You know you over reacted, and that's a good thing, but that doesn't mean you didn't over react. So that means you still made a mistake. And don't assume she doesn't know you like her. You didn't say she didn't know, but I'm just reiterating it anyways.

And she lied to you. So guess what, she likes your friend, and not you. Move on. Be a friend and let your friend get what he can. You on the other had need to back off of her, read the DJ Bible, and use what you learn on your "other options".

Your a man. Take what I'm saying as constructive criticism and grow. You'll get all the women after that.

 

[tafakna]

So its this girl that i really like and care for she got real upset and disgusted with me because I became jealous and mad at my so called friend when he was talking to her in a "more than friends" type of way.

Jealousy is probably the biggest turn-off in a woman's list. You come across like having no emotional control and being weak.

Getting mad in situations like this don't work even when there's an established relationship, which is not the case here.

You always have to outplay the competition. Be funnier, wittier and come across as the better choice. Getting mad because your friend is doing a better job will make you lose your friend, the girl and at the same time make no self improvements.

Read a lot of the posts here, you sound desperate and in AFC mode.