"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WestCoast1492

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Ok.. compared to everyone else this will probably sound stupid.. But i figure i'd get some of your inputs, b/c you seem to know the subject well.

Anyways, a month or so ago i talked to this cute girl in the laundry room. And i regretted it so much, that i didn't even get her name from her. I did see it on her ID card which was on the washer(go figure).. So i looked her up on the directory and found out where she lives in my building(a few floors down).

I see her around sometimes, she always gives me a look.. We don't exchange words, but i just have a hunch she remembers me.. For instance, she flipped her hair last time she walked past me.. Maybe i'm reading into things to much.. Nonetheless..

How do i go about talking to her again without looking like a stalker? I can't think of a way to just stop by her room ,and with my courage it probably wouldn't be accomplished. Any ideas?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by WestCoast1492

I see her around sometimes...
Next time you do, start a conversation with her.

If you're stuck the Bible has plenty of conversation tips.
 

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Problem is.. It's always in passing.. Never like she's on the elevator with me, etc... Any other ideas..
 

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Originally posted by WestCoast1492

Anyways, a month or so ago i talked to this cute girl in the laundry room. And i regretted it so much, that i didn't even get her name from her. I did see it on her ID card which was on the washer(go figure).. So i looked her up on the directory and found out where she lives in my building(a few floors down).

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How do i go about talking to her again without looking like a stalker? I can't think of a way to just stop by her room ,and with my courage it probably wouldn't be accomplished. Any ideas?
That is your problem right there.

Get out of the feminist mindset the approaching women will render you a stalker. Women actually want to be approached. It boasts their ego (you are more of a stalker if you do sneaky things behind her back like when you went out of your way to find out where she lived without her telling you about it.)

Next time you see her just act friendly, smile and say Hi. If you don't have the balls for that then its time to grow some. Read the DJ Bible.

If she acts cold towards you when you approach her and start a conversation then forget about her.

Simple isn't it?

DjDamage
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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