"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Stark

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so this girl is pretty much my best friend that is a girl. im not in the "deep friend zone". like she doesnt talk to me about her bf's and hang out with me outside school. i asked her out last year to prom but she actually did have a bf and i have to say i was a little chubby then. over the summer i lost 24 pounds and got buff. now things have changed a little. before she sarcasticly said i looked good. now she always comments on how good i look, and i how i lost weight. she randomly pokes me doese other things. she said her mom thought i was cute in a picture. she danced with me at homecoming. she texts me a decent amount and recently texted me 2 days in a row. and you are probably asking now why do i not have this chick now. she has a bf =(
she is 17 and he is a good amount older than she is. like he is 20-24 years old. i feel like this is the only thing holding me back from the girl of my dreams. i srsly have developed a sickened state of mind over this woman. she has dominated my mind for the past year. everything about her is so perfect she is the one i want. and recently i feel if she didnt have a bf and i asked her out 99% that it would work. they almost broke up last month but got back togetther the next day. i find myself wishing everyday for them to break up. duno what to do.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bunk 040

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First off, read your post and listen to how femine everything you said sounded. You sound like a little girl talking about her dream boyfriend whose 10 years older.

Brah, it aint no advice somebody can give you to make things work out. You just gotta control your thoughts. Like you thinking bout her too much, go chill with some other friends, find some other girls to chill with. After you do all that and the time is right, tell her how you feel. Not all that lovey dovey ****, but act like you JUST start noticing her as somebosy you could chill with if she wasn't with ol boy she with now, then let her act on it. And if she dont then just keep it rolling.
 

Supremo

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Basically what Bunk said...
Don't be a little ***** about it.
You're whining.

Show this chick you are into other girls. Show her that you have a LIFE.
Be busy. Make her interested in you because you're an interesting person!

Seriously man, you talked about how she texted you "2 days in a row."

Big deal.

Text messaging is crack for girls. Once they start, they can't stop. Don't automatically think she's into her because of that.

Bottom line: GET A LIFE. Do other **** besides obsess over her. KEEP working out, play sports, do well in school, go to parties, get in trouble (not too much), become an expert in something you can show to people... be out there so that she notices you.

Keep talking to her but not ALL the time.

Good luck
 

Alkali

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Forget about her, you don't have a chance with your mindset.

Move on.
 
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