How Do I get my priorities straight,and how can I make up for lost time???

[ItsOnNow]

This is bothering me more than anything else right now,cause this is what factors into your success as a whole. I have been out of school for some time now,so long, for what little time I have had school,it was hard getting back into it. I have had a steady job for 3 years now,yet I am almost always broke cause I spend too much money,on some things I do need and some I don't. I could have had more money had I saved up more. As has been said,women love guys who put there priorites ahead of them...

Plus,what does it really mean to be repressed ? Also,not looking at porn is getting hard for me. It's become routine.

 

[ljm]

Im in the same boat as you at the moment....me also being 22 could be a common thing at our age. Somedays i feel like ive got it all together and other days i feel like im just floating in the one spot for 12 hours or so just watching time and everyone else in it walk past me. It's very frustrating, but you have just got to get ur sh** together.

Know what you want and go get it. DO THIS: Write down a list on a piece of paper, break the list into two. On one side "NEEDS" the other side "WANTS"

From this list you knock over your "NEEDS" first no matter what. Then you go for your "WANTS", you may even find by completing your "NEEDS" your "WANTS" will fall into place such as taking care of yourself "NEEDS" and getting a girl "WANTS". You take care of yourself and you will be winning when your winning the women flock to you no bull**** .Staying on subject this list will help you clear up what has to be done first. From here you will feel like your staying on top of yourself....theres no better feeling than having yourself together, makes you feel unstoppable, and unstoppable you will become

 

[ItsOnNow]

See,I do that all the time. Often get the two confused. The floating in one spot,that's how I always feel. One thing that has always gotten me depressed,and I really don't know how I cam to think this,could be social factors,could be my own mental factors,but is that not ever having a gf,women,f-buddies,fwb,etc, has like bothered me more than anything.

The winning thing, that's what kills me,I feel like I haven't been winning,or winnig very,very little,yet here is everyone else making it. This crushes me. I mean,it seriously feels like I am doomed to be this way. That's where my mental pattern is at. Thing is,I am almost 23,end of the summer,and this time of the year seems to always depress me the most. As time goes on,and I am stuck in the same place. This is some weird mental pattern I seem to be always stuck in. Lack of action isn't helping either. Oh sure,I have goals and such,but what am I doing to reach them?

 

[ljm]

Look at a NEED as something if it isnt done will affect your lifestyle greatly! Such as paying off bills... or going gym to stay in shape. Look at a WANT as something that will affect you in a much smaller manner, or something that can wait for the time being such as buying those new pair of shoes...you want them but u dont need that sh** they will always be on that shelf in that shop...get me?

I don't know about mental factors ...I do know that alot of people do have them don't get me wrong, but alot of the time i think this stuff is made up to point out a reason for being lazy...or not being able to get up and do it, and people think yeah its because of this and they sit back and settle for it. WTF?

Lack of action? If you don't mind sharing.....could you explain what it is you do daily, i'm talkin' from wake up time until bed time again.

 

[Mavrick]

I'm to the point where I don't want to answer you anymore. I know you're looking for direction, but you need to start taking some initiative.

What I think you need is counseling. It will help you get on track. Some cognitive-therapy would work wonders for you.

It's all in your head. You have to change the way you think, but I think you're problem is that you don't know of any other way to think, but there is hope for you because you don't have to be stuck in the thought process you were brought up with.

Seek out change. What you think is what you are. Your attitude IS you.

I have suggested numerous times that you should start with the following book:

"What to Say When I Talk to Myself" by Shad Helmstetter.

 

[BeyondCharm]

At age 22 you haven't really lost time. It's a perfect time to start.