"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how do i get in relationship with her ?? what can i do ?

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here i a have problem that have became my obsession and day by day it's getting worse and worse in my mind.
i love a girl that she has boyfriend but the boyfriend is faraway from her and living in another country the girls loves her bf but the guy gradually going to remove her from his life as the girl told me and even for her birthday he didn't send even a card for her . when i broke up with my ex girl friend this girl was the the only person who tried to make me calm down and stand to listened all what i say . i know she likes me but there is in fact I'm not considered as her boyfriend i wan get closer with her but i scare of that maybe i ruin the current relationship i have with her.
i try to do many things for her and she really is satisfy about what i do for her but other side is also that i think she cant be with me because I'm not from her country and I'm from other side of the world she a Chinese girl and I'm from Greece ....
it's problem drive me crazy i always thinks about this and cant beware myself of it...
you think what can i do ? how can i be her boyfriend , in fact is there any hope for me about this ? or i just have to keep this relationship like what it is now and just be a lover and don't try to being her as my girlfriend....
I'm really confused .
I look froward to getting your advice.
thanks a lot
your sincerely
Carlo. :confused:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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If she's told you she has a boyfriend then she is not interested in a romantic relationship with you. The best thing you can do is relax and let her initiate anything further than friendship. In the meantime go and date other girls...
 

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damn i am in a similar situation let me cut a long and tedious story short:

got talking to this chick, didnt show any interest in her just (i am not bragging) amamzing social proof and charisma she had a boyfriend but she still kissed me, i'd say her IL was in the high 80's anyway we hang out a couple more times talk on the phone, but I dont show any chanllenge get and a ton of flags which i ignore, try to salvage it by cancelling a date and not calling, then get the dreaded 'my boyfriend is back in town next week, LJBF' call. So i am like yeah i think thats best too.

dont **** up like me dude, whats my plan now? well we hang out in the same spots and i know i'll definately bump into her or her sister, all I can do is hit up some more chicks, be my happy self, lots of charisma and social proof and dont give her too much attention - maybe she'll come to me, maybe she wont, but either way other chicks is the key.....

I hope you understand.
 

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^ wow looks like i was trying to employ ganjji techniques on a subconscious level. Now i know more about it which is sweet
 
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