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Master Don Juan
How does a guy ensure that his gf won't cheat/leave him...that's WITHIN your control?
First, within your control means that sometimes you CAN'T control her. Not going too much into philosophy, we can be taken as unique entities with at least some sort of private individuality that you will not be able to understand or explicitly see. Taking that as a PREMISE, then there ARE things out of your control that you cannot change. We'll go to how to approach this seemingly unfullfilling answer in a bit.
The answer is short: YOU MUST BECOME THE ALPHA MALE. You must be a MAN, plain and simple. Why? Because if you are not a MAN, she will eventually be approached and picked up (whether it be a party, bar, club, store, coffee shop, etc), by a MAN. She will UPGRADE. We are always looking to UPGRADE.
Don't, at this point, start spouting sh*t about loving you for you, that she looks past your flaws, blah, blah. If you take this mentality, which in itself is a weakness, she WILL EVENTUALLY UPGRADE. Maybe that's tomorrow. Maybe that's in a decade after having gotten married when she finally gets approached and feels that innate desire to UPGRADE.
What IS an Alpha Male? This is a question that loads can be written about. In short, there's two aspects: a projection of what SOCIETY dictates and what YOU dictate. The balance you choose is YOUR OWN. This is part of being an Alpha Male. Knowing yourself.
This is a little abstract. Let's use an example. Take Joe. Joe is a hardcore biker (a REAL biker). Joe lacks the characteristics that some would call ALPHA. He doesn't dress well, he's vulgar, he perpetually lies, and he LAUGHS at society's dictations! Yet he is ALPHA MALE. Why? Because he has a deep sense of BEING and is CONFIDENT not only with himself but with life. Particular women WILL see Joe as an Alpha Male because he is CONFIDENT and LIVES HIS LIFE. Others won't, simply because his SOCIETY/PERSONAL characteristic balance is so SKEWED.
Then there is John. John is Maximum, from Gladiator. He cherishes the ideals that society profounds onto him. He's honest, he's noble, he dresses well, he's respectful and not vulgar. He is also CONFIDENT and LIVES HIS LIFE. He is more of an ALPHA MALE in society's eyes than Joe. Again, the only difference between the two of them is their BALANCE between SOCIETY/PERSONAL charasteristics.
But they DO HAVE A SIMILARITY:
CONFIDENCE and a BACKBONE OF LIVING LIFE
It's up to you to find the balance. Do you reject the norms of society? No, do you REALLY REJECT them? Then f*cking live by those terms and never faulter to YOUR ideals. Or are you more of a MAXIMUS? Do you see value in society's norms? Do you internally agree with them? Then LIVE BY THEM and DON'T FAULTER.
This is the formation of TRUE CONFIDENCE: the ability to live a MEANINGFUL LIFE how YOU see fit.
In short, you need a PATH. That path is different for everyone, but an INCONFIDENT person has NO path, not because he's CONFUSED, but because he doesn't have the B*LLS to form one.
More can be elaborated about this topic. That's okay.
Point is..you NEED TO BE AN ALPHA MALE FOR A CHICK NOT TO CHEAT on you.
Things that DESTORY this status, regardless of how you define an alpha male are MANY. Here are SOME:
-BEING NEEDY. Do not DEPEND. PROVIDE. Be in control of yourself. DESPERATION IS THE FAULT OF MANY PROBLEMS. Examples include HAVING to see your gf everyday. Why? Because you DEPEND on her. You are DESPERATE for attention. Analyze your own self and see why you DEPEND on her. Do you validate yourself with her? Do you place your VALUE on her?
-OVERREACTING. A man does not OVERREACT. Rationally ANALYZE things. Don't let your emotions destroy you, but don't ignore them either. Find the balance that FITS YOU. Let's say your gf CHEATS on you and has anal intercourse with your buddy. Are you going to explode? Or are you going to analyze these emotions and move on calmly? A man is judged in times of extreme pressure. Focus on recognizing these times and dealing with them.
-IGNORING. Do you IGNORE your problems? If you do, you're too weak to FACE them, and more importantly YOURSELF. If you ignore yourself, you will never reach that point is ALPHA.
Notice I didn't talk about honesty, integrity, morals, etc. etc. And I didn't talk about fitness, sports, etc.
Again, these are for EACH person to figure out, not for me to dictate.
However, REGARDLESS of how you APPROACH LIFE, these THREE things--being needy, ignoring, overreacting--have NO JUSTIFICATION on any philosophical grounds.
So ALWAYS keep these in mind in your quest to become an ALPHA MALE.
Will you ever become THE ALPHA MALE? It's the JOURNEY, not the destination. It's the limiting process TOWARDS the point, not the POINT.
But if every single day, you wake up and conduct a MEANINGFUL LIFE and OBEY the THREE POINTS, then you ARE an ALPHA MALE.
You have reached the epitomy of YOURSELF by constantly CHANGING, i.e. an alpha male, and your gf WILL SEE THIS. She will ALWAYS BE ATTRACTED TO THIS because it's a pure essence that permeates words.
I once told my gf that if I see her in 20 years and we're not together, she will want to have sex with me. She exclaimed, "what?!" jokingly.
I told her she will always be attracted to me. I didn't tell her why, and she already knew it was true.
First, within your control means that sometimes you CAN'T control her. Not going too much into philosophy, we can be taken as unique entities with at least some sort of private individuality that you will not be able to understand or explicitly see. Taking that as a PREMISE, then there ARE things out of your control that you cannot change. We'll go to how to approach this seemingly unfullfilling answer in a bit.
The answer is short: YOU MUST BECOME THE ALPHA MALE. You must be a MAN, plain and simple. Why? Because if you are not a MAN, she will eventually be approached and picked up (whether it be a party, bar, club, store, coffee shop, etc), by a MAN. She will UPGRADE. We are always looking to UPGRADE.
Don't, at this point, start spouting sh*t about loving you for you, that she looks past your flaws, blah, blah. If you take this mentality, which in itself is a weakness, she WILL EVENTUALLY UPGRADE. Maybe that's tomorrow. Maybe that's in a decade after having gotten married when she finally gets approached and feels that innate desire to UPGRADE.
What IS an Alpha Male? This is a question that loads can be written about. In short, there's two aspects: a projection of what SOCIETY dictates and what YOU dictate. The balance you choose is YOUR OWN. This is part of being an Alpha Male. Knowing yourself.
This is a little abstract. Let's use an example. Take Joe. Joe is a hardcore biker (a REAL biker). Joe lacks the characteristics that some would call ALPHA. He doesn't dress well, he's vulgar, he perpetually lies, and he LAUGHS at society's dictations! Yet he is ALPHA MALE. Why? Because he has a deep sense of BEING and is CONFIDENT not only with himself but with life. Particular women WILL see Joe as an Alpha Male because he is CONFIDENT and LIVES HIS LIFE. Others won't, simply because his SOCIETY/PERSONAL characteristic balance is so SKEWED.
Then there is John. John is Maximum, from Gladiator. He cherishes the ideals that society profounds onto him. He's honest, he's noble, he dresses well, he's respectful and not vulgar. He is also CONFIDENT and LIVES HIS LIFE. He is more of an ALPHA MALE in society's eyes than Joe. Again, the only difference between the two of them is their BALANCE between SOCIETY/PERSONAL charasteristics.
But they DO HAVE A SIMILARITY:
CONFIDENCE and a BACKBONE OF LIVING LIFE
It's up to you to find the balance. Do you reject the norms of society? No, do you REALLY REJECT them? Then f*cking live by those terms and never faulter to YOUR ideals. Or are you more of a MAXIMUS? Do you see value in society's norms? Do you internally agree with them? Then LIVE BY THEM and DON'T FAULTER.
This is the formation of TRUE CONFIDENCE: the ability to live a MEANINGFUL LIFE how YOU see fit.
In short, you need a PATH. That path is different for everyone, but an INCONFIDENT person has NO path, not because he's CONFUSED, but because he doesn't have the B*LLS to form one.
More can be elaborated about this topic. That's okay.
Point is..you NEED TO BE AN ALPHA MALE FOR A CHICK NOT TO CHEAT on you.
Things that DESTORY this status, regardless of how you define an alpha male are MANY. Here are SOME:
-BEING NEEDY. Do not DEPEND. PROVIDE. Be in control of yourself. DESPERATION IS THE FAULT OF MANY PROBLEMS. Examples include HAVING to see your gf everyday. Why? Because you DEPEND on her. You are DESPERATE for attention. Analyze your own self and see why you DEPEND on her. Do you validate yourself with her? Do you place your VALUE on her?
-OVERREACTING. A man does not OVERREACT. Rationally ANALYZE things. Don't let your emotions destroy you, but don't ignore them either. Find the balance that FITS YOU. Let's say your gf CHEATS on you and has anal intercourse with your buddy. Are you going to explode? Or are you going to analyze these emotions and move on calmly? A man is judged in times of extreme pressure. Focus on recognizing these times and dealing with them.
-IGNORING. Do you IGNORE your problems? If you do, you're too weak to FACE them, and more importantly YOURSELF. If you ignore yourself, you will never reach that point is ALPHA.
Notice I didn't talk about honesty, integrity, morals, etc. etc. And I didn't talk about fitness, sports, etc.
Again, these are for EACH person to figure out, not for me to dictate.
However, REGARDLESS of how you APPROACH LIFE, these THREE things--being needy, ignoring, overreacting--have NO JUSTIFICATION on any philosophical grounds.
So ALWAYS keep these in mind in your quest to become an ALPHA MALE.
Will you ever become THE ALPHA MALE? It's the JOURNEY, not the destination. It's the limiting process TOWARDS the point, not the POINT.
But if every single day, you wake up and conduct a MEANINGFUL LIFE and OBEY the THREE POINTS, then you ARE an ALPHA MALE.
You have reached the epitomy of YOURSELF by constantly CHANGING, i.e. an alpha male, and your gf WILL SEE THIS. She will ALWAYS BE ATTRACTED TO THIS because it's a pure essence that permeates words.
I once told my gf that if I see her in 20 years and we're not together, she will want to have sex with me. She exclaimed, "what?!" jokingly.
I told her she will always be attracted to me. I didn't tell her why, and she already knew it was true.
