"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HOW 2 SPOT A LIAR-Secrets Revealed

COD

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Now there are those that say that lying is a total waste of time and want nothing to do with people that are habitual or pathological liars. Some claim that if you go looking for dirt odds are you will find it, you might not like what you.

We all have spewed a fabrication in some degree in our past. Little white lies, exaggerations, withholding information, denial, calling in sick for work, surprises, B.S. seeking validation, all variations on a common theme. Now keep in mind I am talking about verbal lies which is different than signs/actions that would indicate cheating. If you see indicators of cheating, lie detection would support your findings.

The benefits of being able to instantly determine if someone is deviating from the truth is a great skill to posses. If you are in a relationship and suspect your partner is evading your questions, if someone you just met seems too good to be true, if there answers to your questions just don't add up it, interviewing new hires, etc it may be time to whip out the lie detector skill set. Lie detection technology has been around for decades but is still not 100% full-proof. More importantly not too many people feel comfortable being interrogated while being strapped to electronic equipment. There is a much quicker and just as reliable way of determining lies. The old standard of "their eyes shifted" when they answered is an example of psychological scrutinization. People that B.S. all share common behavioral patterns.

- LIARS OFTEN REVERT TO DENIAL WHEN QUESTIONED and use or begin phrases like: “to be completely honest, to tell you the truth, quite frankly, ordinarily, etc”

- THEY MAY TRY TO DIFUSE A SITUATION WITH HUMOR BY OPENLY ADMIT GUILT-“ya honey I am having an affair with my secretary, were acting getting married soon” and I just won the lottery too”

- THEY TEND TO SUPPLY MORE INFO THEN ASKED-yes I did have lunch with Lisa, we shared a cheese pizza at the Olive Garden, it was raining on a Tuesday.

- THEY SPEW RETORICAL QUESTIONS WITH SO CALLED LOGIC-if I was having an affair do you really think I’d be stupid enough to give her my home number. If I did steal the money why would I show up at work the next day?

- CHANGE THE SUBJECT OR REVERSE THE GUILT TRIP ON TO YOU-I can’t believe you are bringing this up again, are you accusing me of cheating, are you calling me a liar, we already discussed this, here we go again, etc.

- BODY LANGUAGE-liars tend to recall info by moving the eyes up & to the right. SHIFY-touching of the nose, head frequently, a overall discomfort, nervous actions, sweating, long pauses, etc.

- BUFFER ZONE-they tend to put a space between them and you. Folding of the arms, crossing legs, leaning back in a chair, turning chair around, moving chair away from you.
 

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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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everywomanshero

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Paul Ekman has a book regarding nonverbal and verbal signs of deciet. He is the most highly regarded expert on the subject. He also produces a training CD. Recent studies have shown that people trained under him can do better than the average person at lie detection. I've read one of his books and completed two of his training CDs. Well, I did improve my scores on the training course considerably, and I am sure if I could video someone and replay it over and over, I would probably be reasonably accurate. However, most of the time I do not even think the look for signs of deciet. It would take a great deal of practice to commit these skills to unconscious competence.
 

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COD said:
- LIARS OFTEN REVERT TO DENIAL WHEN QUESTIONED and use or begin phrases like: “to be completely honest, to tell you the truth, quite frankly, ordinarily, etc”
A little off subject, but every now and then certain phrases come into pure over-popularity in common communication. I noticed this a ton in the financial world where everyone would start using the same ridiculous phrases like:
- 'At the end of the day' (At the end of what day????)
- 'That being said' (I just said something and now I have to say 'That being said'????)

The recent mania of 'to be completely honest, to tell you the truth, quite frankly, ordinarily, etc' is the worst ever by 1,000,000%. Especially, 'honestly'. These phrases are so moronic. Listen around... tv, stores, social scenes - most anyone stupid you might run into is using this sh1t of late.

As mentioned, psychologically, it implies that you either lie or stretch the truth a alot or are so stupid that you like to use the phrase of the month that you hear everyone else using because you can't develop a real vocabulary.

I am not a DJ like the masters all up on here, but at least I have been damn good about not using this stuff. I think DJ's would never use this sh1t, even in their 2nd or 3rd language!!!
 
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