Hot or Not rating, a boost to my ego.

[Canadian Catnip]

I never thought of myself as good looking. I used to rate myself a 2 or a 3 internally whenever I looked at myself.

I put my picture on Hot or Not about a year ago and got ratings between 4.5 or 5. To some that might seem low but it was high to me. It made me rethink how others saw me and helped me reframe my beliefs about my looks.

I started dressing nicer, shaved off my beard that made me look much older. Shaved my head as well, I had a big bald patch that also made me look older as well.

Got lots of complements that I now look 15 to 20 years younger.

Put a picture of my new look up on Hot or Not and got a rating of 9.6. as of tonight. I'm blown away.

Before joining Sosuave I never would have imagined that I could improve on my looks, but after seeing that many women responded favorably to my new look I feel a lot more confident now.

I have realized that it's important to get feedback from others. If I live in my own head I can seriously have a distorted view of what people think of me.

Sosuave, helping us all make changes for the better.

 

[IKO69]

Yes you should feel good about yourself.

A guys looks however aren't as important to girls, as a girls looks are to guys.

 

[Canadian Catnip]

A guys looks however aren't as important to girls, as a girls looks are to guys.

Yes, true, but if you think of yourself as a 2 or 3 in the looks department and you get rated up around 9 or 10 it can change a lot of your inner game for the better.

I've had experiences with women where I never pulled the trigger so to speak because I thought I would get rejected. Now I feel a lot more confident in my approaches and interactions. That is the boost I was talking about.

 

[loving]

If I live in my own head I can seriously have a distorted view of what people think of me.

i really like this line