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met a nice looking girl at the pub in the middle of December and she was the one who approached me. She asked how she could get in touch with me and we had a drink together and I gave her my business card.

Anyhow, we got together about a week later and had a great time and went out with a bunch of her friends from work. We ended up back at my place and just made out for a couple of hours on my couch.

We went out a couple of more times and she came over for Christmas eve and we watched movies for a couple of hours and again made out, but no sex. She called when she got home and we talked for a couple of hours.

We texted each other back and forth for a few days later. This is where she flips out. She sent a text asking me to join her at a pub down the street. I replied "sorry dear, I have plans for the guys tonight". So she replies "Ouch!! I see how important I am". I didn't reply as I had friends over at the time. While we were out, she sent about 5 texts to which I didn't reply. Finally, she sends one that says "Let me know when you're free". I was like WTF is she sending so many?

I went out for a smoke and decided to call her to see why so many texts. She flips on me and said she couldn't take it anymore and that I'm some sort of player. She says we shouldn't see each anymore, so I just agreed with her calmly and hung up the phone to go back to my friends as I was getting ticked off with her by this point. She sends a txt about 5 mins later saying "Sorry too many headaches, if I could grab my stuff Tomorrow I would be thankful" I did not reply to this.

I did not call her for a week, no texts and neither any contact from her for a week. I sent her a text after the week saying "you can either pick up your stuff from the front desk of my building or you can wait until I get back from vacation next week" To which she replies back within 2 minutes "Hey there!!!! I'd rather wait until you get back but either way is good!!! Happy New Year!!!" She sounded rather happy to hear from me.

I told her I would get in touch with her when I got back from Mexico and then she replies back "Sounds good!! Enjoy your trip!!!"

I contact her by text telling her I'll be at the pub if she wants to pick up her stuff and she responds back "Sounds great!!! Thanks again!!" ...WTF is up with these girls who flip out like this back and forth? I'm going to NEXT her anyway, but I would like to tap that a$$ first as she's hot as hell. Any insight would be great. BTW, she is 29 I am 32 and we are both professionals if that means anything.

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She's a drama queen. She went nuts on you to create drama and you didn't go for it and distanced yourself. That made her wonder about you and why you ain't chasing her. However, you kinda dropped the ball by texting her first unless you just would've said "your stuff is at the front desk" thereby cutting off meeting her in person. Luckily she responded positively.
 

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I want to tap it, that's why I didn't really want to cut her off completely yet. I sent her the text the night before I left just to keep me in the loop until I got back. If I had of tagged her already, I would have simply thrown her stuff out.

Thanks Mr.Wise.
 

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This is why I avoid text messages. Once you give them an inch, they'll want a mile and expect you to be available 24/7 for them.
 

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You should have tapped it already. How many dates did you go out on her with? Did you at least try to tap it?
 

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she has low self esteem.

her new found positive attitude is an attempt to cover it up. she's either faking it or she's found a new guy and wants you to think you lost out on the prize when she walks away from you.
 

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joekerr31 said:
she has low self esteem.

her new found positive attitude is an attempt to cover it up. she's either faking it or she's found a new guy and wants you to think you lost out on the prize when she walks away from you.
If this was the case, why all the positive texts the same day as the flip out? I think it's a sh!t test for control which I will certainly not give. I've disqualified her as an LTR but would like to hit it first before the NEXTing. Any ideas how to approach that?
 
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