Honestly where do I go wrong?!

[toddC]

Okay...since I've been here for a while I'm pretty sure that I'm a decent DJ. Not quite up there yet but I'm getting there.

Now having said that let me give you guys 2 examples of girls I've DJed that went wrong...

Okay, example 1:

This one girl, my friend's girlfriend set me up with her. We both knew each other just never made out or anything. Now we made out 1 night and decided to see where it went. So after about a month I asked her to take it to the next step to be exclusive etc etc etc...she said she didn't want to but she did want to see where we could go...however we just stopped hookingup after that..I could tell that she was losing interest in me even before I asked her to go exclusive but I don't know where I went wrong...

Now heres where I think I went wrong which is where I need your guys help. I think that I textd her too much which we had text convos every single day. I really never asked her to go anywhere etc...

Okay, example 2: This new girl, we both met at a party...HB 8.5. Now its just a coincidence that another one of my friends is going out with her BEST friend. So I've been talking to her best friend about it and she todl me that this HB was very interested in me. So last thursday I took her out to dinner before her dance at our highschool. Now everythign went real well. She texted me later in the night saying how embarasing the dance was etc etc...then this weekend was the junior ski trip (shes a junior and I'm a senior) and she ended up callign me twice on friday night (its a weekend of pure drukeness and highness for the juniors). Then on saturday I got nothing so on sunday (the day they come home) I decided to text her. I got a few texts back and then I just cut it off. Then today I texted her asking to come to play in the snow with me but she said she had some work to do and couldn't but later I saw her friend's away message on AOL saying Out for a lil with HB 8.5. So could this be loss of interest or i dk...i need help cause i serously wanna land this girl bad boys.

 

[jlazz]

You've answered your own question..you've become too clingy w/ both of them. Your texting has become excessive. Just as bad as calling a girl so many times a week. Listen...if you want to keep a girl interested, don't throw yourself out there. You know she already likes you, so why are you showing her all of your cards? Reveal each one slowly to keep her wanting more. STAY MYSTERIOUS!

That means, instead of texting her everyday, maybe call her on a day sometime between sun-wed and keep the convo short...schedule a meeting or invite her to a party, etc.

By texting her so much, she basically knows she has you and you are no longer a challenge. You bored her. You left her nothing to seek out.

 

[toddC]

yea, thats what i've been thinkign but what if she texts me first?

also i've noticed that without me texting her usually like once a day the girls seem to think i'm losing interst in THEM

 

[jlazz]

Originally posted by toddC
yea, thats what i've been thinkign but what if she texts me first?

also i've noticed that without me texting her usually like once a day the girls seem to think i'm losing interst in THEM

If she texts you, throw some c/f at her.

"you just can't resist txting me huh "

and leave it at that...none of that supplicating ****.

They aren't losing interest in you. You have to leave on a HIGH note. A note that will have her thinking about you afterwards. Never let her have all your time. By leaving on a high note, next time you call her, she'll be so happy and it'll make it that much better.

 

[toddC]

and how can i leave on a high note? just by textin her some c + f?
also what if she answers the c + f should I answer back with another c + f line and hope that she doesn't answer? lol

 

[jlazz]

Basically...leaving on a high note is this:

For example:

You're out with friends and meet this girl..you hit it off then and there and she's showing you IOI's..laughing at corny jokes, etc. At this point, you want to quickly #close. By doing this, you're letting her think about you after you leave. If you don't close right away, you're basically showing her all your cards.

Now with the girls you're gaming, if SHE texts you (don't be the first...remember, you only call to set up dates), text her back w/ some c/f like I said before and tell her "you just can't get enough of me huh " and leave it at that. If she texts you back, just throw another c/f at her, but be quick to end it. You don't want to send multiple txt's. Maybe end it by saying "don't worry...you won't lose me yet to the other girls ;-)...I'll see you sometime later this week" Done...don't let it continue. Texting is for pussies.