I got this girl's number at the bar the other night. I was thinking about just calling her up later today (since it's still the weekend) and see if she wanted to grab a bite to eat and then chill out downtown (I'm new to the area but she isn't) and then just see how it goes from there. She seemed interested in me the other day and I did a little kino, etc. etc. She wasn't drinking at the time but I just had a few beers. We had a really good conversation on the balcony of the bar. But anyway, good move? Too early?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hmm ... now what?
- Thread starter BlahBBlah
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Keeper
Master Don Juan
The other night?
You worry about the wrong things. Yes, do it now. Take action. NOW!
Why are you still readin this! Go set up a date!
GO!
STOP READING THIS!
Ok... what if I told you, that by the time you finish this line, it's gonna be too late.
There... it's too late.
Are you happy now?
Your chances with her are gone. You're dead inside.
D-E-D!
Hmm... this displeases me.
Go away!
Stop reading!
Ok... I'm just gonna shut up now...
You worry about the wrong things. Yes, do it now. Take action. NOW!
Why are you still readin this! Go set up a date!
GO!
STOP READING THIS!
Ok... what if I told you, that by the time you finish this line, it's gonna be too late.
There... it's too late.
Are you happy now?
Your chances with her are gone. You're dead inside.
D-E-D!
Hmm... this displeases me.
Go away!
Stop reading!
Ok... I'm just gonna shut up now...
Boschy
Senior Don Juan
Way to go, bar-stud! Happy ending or not, at least you're getting out there and engaging the nightlife.
redbyte
Don Juan
Never have I read such a completely useless post. Where were you going with this?Keeper said:The other night?
You worry about the wrong things. Yes, do it now. Take action. NOW!
Why are you still readin this! Go set up a date!
GO!
STOP READING THIS!
Ok... what if I told you, that by the time you finish this line, it's gonna be too late.
There... it's too late.
Are you happy now?
Your chances with her are gone. You're dead inside.
D-E-D!
Hmm... this displeases me.
Go away!
Stop reading!
Ok... I'm just gonna shut up now..
I'm with Boschy, congrats on the number. Do as you please. Personally I'd wait till Wednesday or something then set up a date.