High standards

[rhcp83]

Anyone else on here have really high standards lookswise? I realize a lot of this is that I don't live in the big city where attractive women of all types, whatever you want, are all over the place...but compared to most guys I know, I seem to be very picky and would rather do without (sex or dating) than settle.

What tends to lack with most women is "sex appeal." The couple girls I dated, despite being above average looking, were just too darn nice and their appearance also didn't have any exoticness to it. I want a woman where it's like, "Wow, I can't wait to do her."

 

[Racecar]

There's nothing wrong with being SELECTIVE in who you chose to date.

If this becomes a problem or you feel you're too picky, take some time to explore women outside of your 'regular' interests.

Porn is very helpful in doing this. If something piques your interest, make a note of it and remember it for later. You'll likely find you are attracted to a wider range of desirable women than you originally thought.

You mentioned the word 'exotic.' Be specific with yourself. Does that mean Asian? European? Bi-racial?

Once you figure that out, you can then begin visiting places where you can meeting the type of women you desire.

 

[rhcp83]

Well I think porn/women in tv shows/movies are what caused the high standards in the first place.

By exotic (by my definition) I just mean a white girl that has sex appeal (in my eyes)...a woman like Natasha Henstridge or Shannen Doherty (Doherty circa 90s not Doherty now.) I like the full ass/tits/sexy face/not scrawny not chubby look.

 

[Racecar]

Hmm...if that's the case, maybe a change of environment is best.

Do you travel? Spend a weekend in Chicago, St. Louis, Houston or any similar-sized city and you'll likely find what you're looking for.

It is possible you could be associating sexual behavior traits with a certain type of woman. Sometimes we link a trait (e.g. sexual submissiveness) to a certain body type (e.g. short girls) when in actually it is the trait we find attractive.

Instead of slim, curvaceous women, maybe you prefer the femininity that goes along with it?

 

[The LadyKiller]

Having high standards is perfectly fine unless those standards are completely unrealistic. I have high standards myself. You might lose opportunities by being selective,but when things work, you'll never feel that you "settled" either, which is good. You want to be the best that you can be in every aspect of life, why "settle" here? Though again, keep the expectations in the ballpark.

Also, IMO, like you said, a HB can be attractive, but their mannerisms and how they conduct themselves affects your attraction to them too. Girl A can be a 8 and Girl B can be a 7, but if B has more of an edge and A is over-the-top nice, B might be more attractive.

 

[ken chang]

I'm not sure I have high standards, but I do think I have specific standards. I know which kind of girl I find attractive.
Almost all of my friends and family are pestering me to get married because I'm getting older but I don't want to marry a chick that I just settled for.
So to them, I come of as having high standards.
But the truth is, their idea of a perfect girl for me just doesn't match with my idea for a suitable partner for myself.

 

[rhcp83]

I think I just pay attention to the small details more than most people, not just with women, with everything in life.

I was thinking, "What is it about Henstridge that makes me so attracted?" and other than the obvious...her body and face...she's aware of her sexual beauty but isn't all c0cky about it. She isn't a dumb woman...she's been nude in many movies (Species the most notable) but she at the same time seems like a normal, down to earth person. But the femininity that she exudes...she could be wearing a t shirt and jeans and still have "it."

What I seem to find when I go out, even in the big city, is 6/7/8s that think they're really hot because they dress like they're rich and walk really fast...or the opposite...6/7/8s that are just "really nice"...usually prudy.