boogalooboy
Don Juan
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Hey guys and girls?
Ive been looking at this site for the passed month or so and reading various bible aricles and downloaded the bootcamp. Its certainly eye opening stuff and i took it on board into my frame of thinking without question. Reading and doing are 2 different things though and im having trouble taking that first step.
I come frome england and ive been living in australia for about 10 years now. I remember when i was younger and i first started school here, girls would come up and tell me to talk and then laugh. Or when i say something they would say stuff about my accent etc. Nothing bad but i think it contributed and traumatized me today. Im quite a shy person. I get discouraged easily and i hate it when people ask me "What?" when i say something, because of my accent. Deep down i know if i said it confidently and loud my accent wouldnt matter and chicks may even dig it. But im just to shy to do that. Its wierd. At home i am totally loud and with my friends i am, i am even the alpha among some friends, so i know i have it in me to be an alpha male all over and be a leader. Its just places like work and uni im quiet. Its like i have split personalities depending on where i am. Its like now i feel if i was to just suddenly become a loud guy it would just be wierd. I even considered just quitting everything, work, uni and doing totally different jobs, courses and starting fresh and on my first day just be loud etc. But i dunno if itll help, id probably just be quiet again.
Lately ive been caring alot less and i talk more and not give a **** and there have been less people saying "what?" or giving me wierd looks. I honestly dont know what it is. Chicks at work talk to all the other guys but not me. They always look at me but wont say anything. I think i have a trouble with self conciousness too. Like if i talk to a chick i will recite how i spoke to her later on and see if i sounded dumb or not, or look in the mirror to see how i looked. I know i have to always make the first moves on girls, and they wont usually say HI first. On a few occasions a girl has started up a convo with me and intro'd themselves but next time we cross paths i will never say hi first, and i think that they think "Well fvuck that i intro'd myself its up to him to sya hi" . So now basically at work and uni i just have a bunch of girls who ive talked to but just dont carry on talking to.
Im 20 years old and ive slept with 2 girls. I think its quite pathetic i met em online. I dont have any friends that are girls and i never really have. I dunno were to start. I really wanna improve and i know i have it in me to improve since with my friends i am a different person, the real me. I do have a confident side and i dunno why i just dont show it everywhere. IM not ugly and im pretty sure if i made the effort id probably get somewhere with girls in work and uni but i dunno why i just cant do it. Ive been working on the eye contact thing in the bible and thats going pretty well. Next step saying "Hi" to random people. Hmm i think i can do it.
But i honestly dont fvucking know whats wrong with me, and hoping somebody can give me advice or something?
Ive been looking at this site for the passed month or so and reading various bible aricles and downloaded the bootcamp. Its certainly eye opening stuff and i took it on board into my frame of thinking without question. Reading and doing are 2 different things though and im having trouble taking that first step.
I come frome england and ive been living in australia for about 10 years now. I remember when i was younger and i first started school here, girls would come up and tell me to talk and then laugh. Or when i say something they would say stuff about my accent etc. Nothing bad but i think it contributed and traumatized me today. Im quite a shy person. I get discouraged easily and i hate it when people ask me "What?" when i say something, because of my accent. Deep down i know if i said it confidently and loud my accent wouldnt matter and chicks may even dig it. But im just to shy to do that. Its wierd. At home i am totally loud and with my friends i am, i am even the alpha among some friends, so i know i have it in me to be an alpha male all over and be a leader. Its just places like work and uni im quiet. Its like i have split personalities depending on where i am. Its like now i feel if i was to just suddenly become a loud guy it would just be wierd. I even considered just quitting everything, work, uni and doing totally different jobs, courses and starting fresh and on my first day just be loud etc. But i dunno if itll help, id probably just be quiet again.
Lately ive been caring alot less and i talk more and not give a **** and there have been less people saying "what?" or giving me wierd looks. I honestly dont know what it is. Chicks at work talk to all the other guys but not me. They always look at me but wont say anything. I think i have a trouble with self conciousness too. Like if i talk to a chick i will recite how i spoke to her later on and see if i sounded dumb or not, or look in the mirror to see how i looked. I know i have to always make the first moves on girls, and they wont usually say HI first. On a few occasions a girl has started up a convo with me and intro'd themselves but next time we cross paths i will never say hi first, and i think that they think "Well fvuck that i intro'd myself its up to him to sya hi" . So now basically at work and uni i just have a bunch of girls who ive talked to but just dont carry on talking to.
Im 20 years old and ive slept with 2 girls. I think its quite pathetic i met em online. I dont have any friends that are girls and i never really have. I dunno were to start. I really wanna improve and i know i have it in me to improve since with my friends i am a different person, the real me. I do have a confident side and i dunno why i just dont show it everywhere. IM not ugly and im pretty sure if i made the effort id probably get somewhere with girls in work and uni but i dunno why i just cant do it. Ive been working on the eye contact thing in the bible and thats going pretty well. Next step saying "Hi" to random people. Hmm i think i can do it.
But i honestly dont fvucking know whats wrong with me, and hoping somebody can give me advice or something?