"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hernia operation...

Mr. Mystery II

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I have had a hernia for like a year and a half now and its now bad enough to wear I pretty much have to keep my hand in my pocket to hold my guts in. It sucks.

When I get the operation, how long will I be out of commission? I was planning on having it on a Friday night, resting over the weekend and still being able to make it to work monday where I just have to sit at a desk.

What should I expect realistically?

Mr. Mystery
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kickman72

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you might be able to do that but it may be a good idea to rest a couple of weeks after the operation. is it a inguinal hernia?
 

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I had an operation for a hernia when I was like 5 years old. My belly button stuck out like a march mallow before the surgery.

I don't remember if it was painful, because I was circumsized during the same hernia operation. My mind was focused on the penis discomfort more than the stomach. :p

I don't remember it being too bad, though.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I had the operation almost a year ago after dealing with the hernia for about 10 years (don't ask why, it had only been a nuisance). I had the operation on Friday and felt great afterward, then the meds wore off. I took one more dose and got sick because the meds were EXTREMELY strong. I was hobbling around on Saturday and into Sunday without the meds.

I went to work on Monday and got around pretty well for the next couple of weeks with limited lifting however I did a lot of walking per the doctors orders. Close to the end of the second week I starting training on my Lifecycle and about a month later I rode my bike in the Minnesota Ironman. :D

In a nutshell, take it easy the first few days just to get your bearing and change your bandages often. Keep moving if you can especially if you can keep the meds down. If you are in relatively good health you will be able to bounce back pretty easily.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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