"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Here's your crocodile tears story for today, boyos: Why Tinder is making women MISERABLE

MatureDJ

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What this study found out (for the lazier ones who do not wanna click on the article)


Overall, the profiles received 8248 male matches and only 532 female matches.
86% of all the matches male profiles received came from other men.
7 per cent of men and 21 per cent of women sent a message after matching with a profile.
Women took their time over writing a message. Almost two thirds of messages sent by men were sent within five minutes of the match taking place, while only 18 per cent of those sent by women were this fast.
About one third of men said they regularly 'casually like most profiles,' while no women said they do this.
93 per cent of women said that they only swiped right on profiles they were actually attracted to.

How the study worked:

Dr Tyson set up 14 fake Tinder profiles in London, half were female and half male.
They automatically liked everyone within a 100 mile (160km) radius, and noted how many they matched with, and then how many sent messages.
Although men were less likely to send a message first, many more men sent messages since the overwhelming majority of matches came from men.
The vast proportion of matches came from men, whether for the team's male or female profiles.

Why women are better at oline dating:


Using data collected from Baihe, one of the largest dating websites in China, researchers from Binghamton University, University of Massachusetts Lowell and Northeastern University analysed the messages and how suitable each person actually was.
Men are far more aggressive on online dating sites - but often 'mass mail' women that are out of their league in the hope of a response, the researchers found.
They say that by comparison, women tend to be more conscious of their own attractiveness to other users and approach fewer people.
The study found major behavioural differences between male and female users when it comes to contacting potential partners.


my personal opinion about this: I want the time back I spend reading this thing. Meh
 

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What this study found out (for the lazier ones who do not wanna click on the article)


Overall, the profiles received 8248 male matches and only 532 female matches.
86% of all the matches male profiles received came from other men.
7 per cent of men and 21 per cent of women sent a message after matching with a profile.
Women took their time over writing a message. Almost two thirds of messages sent by men were sent within five minutes of the match taking place, while only 18 per cent of those sent by women were this fast.
About one third of men said they regularly 'casually like most profiles,' while no women said they do this.
93 per cent of women said that they only swiped right on profiles they were actually attracted to.

How the study worked:

Dr Tyson set up 14 fake Tinder profiles in London, half were female and half male.
They automatically liked everyone within a 100 mile (160km) radius, and noted how many they matched with, and then how many sent messages.
Although men were less likely to send a message first, many more men sent messages since the overwhelming majority of matches came from men.
The vast proportion of matches came from men, whether for the team's male or female profiles.

Why women are better at oline dating:


Using data collected from Baihe, one of the largest dating websites in China, researchers from Binghamton University, University of Massachusetts Lowell and Northeastern University analysed the messages and how suitable each person actually was.
Men are far more aggressive on online dating sites - but often 'mass mail' women that are out of their league in the hope of a response, the researchers found.
They say that by comparison, women tend to be more conscious of their own attractiveness to other users and approach fewer people.
The study found major behavioural differences between male and female users when it comes to contacting potential partners.


my personal opinion about this: I want the time back I spend reading this thing. Meh
I've done my own experiment and here are my scientific conclusions:

- Tinder is a cocckkfest
- There at least 10 times as many men as women
- Most of the women on there are attention whoares promoting their Instagram thirst traps
- Women are too lazy to swipe after the first day they use it as they already have 100 matches
 

Hamurabimbi

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Women took their time over writing a message. Almost two thirds of messages sent by men were sent within five minutes of the match taking place, while only 18 per cent of those sent by women were this fast.
Wow! When I was on Tinder. I would wait 12 to 24 hours to message a match. But Tinder does send out ‘Notifications’ to message quickly
 

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What this study found out (for the lazier ones who do not wanna click on the article)


Overall, the profiles received 8248 male matches and only 532 female matches.
86% of all the matches male profiles received came from other men.
7 per cent of men and 21 per cent of women sent a message after matching with a profile.
Women took their time over writing a message. Almost two thirds of messages sent by men were sent within five minutes of the match taking place, while only 18 per cent of those sent by women were this fast.
About one third of men said they regularly 'casually like most profiles,' while no women said they do this.
93 per cent of women said that they only swiped right on profiles they were actually attracted to.

How the study worked:

Dr Tyson set up 14 fake Tinder profiles in London, half were female and half male.
They automatically liked everyone within a 100 mile (160km) radius, and noted how many they matched with, and then how many sent messages.
Although men were less likely to send a message first, many more men sent messages since the overwhelming majority of matches came from men.
The vast proportion of matches came from men, whether for the team's male or female profiles.

Why women are better at oline dating:


Using data collected from Baihe, one of the largest dating websites in China, researchers from Binghamton University, University of Massachusetts Lowell and Northeastern University analysed the messages and how suitable each person actually was.
Men are far more aggressive on online dating sites - but often 'mass mail' women that are out of their league in the hope of a response, the researchers found.
They say that by comparison, women tend to be more conscious of their own attractiveness to other users and approach fewer people.
The study found major behavioural differences between male and female users when it comes to contacting potential partners.


my personal opinion about this: I want the time back I spend reading this thing. Meh
Tinder is a massive sausage fest, no surprises there. Your basically competing with hoards of men for Chads leftovers.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hamurabimbi

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I left Tinder 9/19. Was great then. Sad that it seems to have gotten so bad now.
 

SirBigBell

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Im in my late 30s and have never been on OLD. The whole concept just doesnt appeal to me. OLD makes women feel like big lights in the dark, and men feel like the moths. Nah
 
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